Got a few hours of sleep, but I just feel totally exhausted. My plan for the day is to bake. I bought boxed bread mixes for the fair. Should be fairly easy. I think I can get them all done today. Other than that I have to clean the sun room and water my plants. I forgot over the weekend and some are giving me the hint, lol.
Yesterday we got out first snow fall. I was really pretty, big flakes. We got maybe an inch, just enough to make everything slushy, since it had been raining before it turned to snow. Some of the higher elevations up North got up to 8"s of snow. One good thing about living farther South in the state is we usually miss a lot of the significant snow fall. Not always though, lol. Now I have to get outside this weekend and do all those things I've been putting off. I think I'm out of time now.
Had a chat with the boys about the chores they are refusing to do. Basically it was if you don't help to keep it clean, than you don't use it. Period. Got lots of help after that. I am going to start making them do their own laundry and help me cook. The oldest is clueless about both and these are things they really do need to learn for when they are on their own anyway.
That's about it for now.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Sleepless night
It's early am and I haven't been able to get back to sleep yet so I thought maybe writing out what's bothering me will help so I can sleep.
Yesterday was a holiday in hubby's country so him and uncle cooked special food. Since it's a holiday, there was drinking. Hubby didn't have as much as he might have because he has to get up and go to work early. Around 1 am I heard something that sounded like someone walking into the kitchen table. Didn't think much of it. The cat wasn't in bed with us so maybe it was her jumping on the table. Few minutes go by and then I hear someone in the bathroom. There's all this banging and whatnot in the bathroom so I wake hubby up and make him go check. His uncle isn't all that well and I thought maybe something was wrong with him. Little did I realize. Hubby goes to the door and uncle says he's ok. I realize uncle is totally wasted. What I was hearing was he was bumping into things. I roll over to go back to sleep. All of a sudden I smell something like a wood burning stove. Really strong. We don't' have a wood burning stove. As I'm walking through the house it's getting stronger. I go out into the sun room and there is the electric heater turned upside down, smoking away. The tv was knocked off it's stand and there's broken glass all over the sun room carpeting. I see the heater and start screaming and flipping. I turn the heater over and am screaming at hubby to unplug it so I can get it outside. Hubby's all cool and calm telling me to relax. I'm yelling our house could have caught on fire because of this. Then I realize the living room and kitchen are full of smoke, so I start opening windows and doors and turning on all the ceiling fans. As I'm starting to calm down I realize his uncle was so drunk he knocked everything over and NEVER KNEW HE DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At this point the fear and panic turned into anger. I told him uncle has to go. I want him out of my house. The sooner the better. No wonder his wife doesn't want anything to do with him. I don't blame her. I don't want the responsibility either.
Well, 4 am came and hubby got me up to take him to work and I told him I was already up. Never got back to sleep. I've done a lot of thanking to God for taking care of us because things could have been so much worse. Hubby's uncle was still bumping around in his room when we left so I asked hubby if he was still so drunk. Hubby said he thought he was felling better now. I told hubby to talk to him and tell him what he did. That he can not be left alone to drink in our house ever again. Hubby's response was that at least the tv wasn't broken! I told him I didn't care about the tv, that can be replaced. We could be homeless, or worse right now. Did he think about that?? And it would all be his uncles fault. I still want him out. I have to work on hubby about that one though.
So I called off from work because I've maybe had 3 hours of sleep all night. I'm still wide awake. Hopefully, now that I'm calmer I can get a few hours of sleep. I've decided I'm going to do the baking for the fair this weekend since I'll have the time. That way no rushing after I get home the rest of the week.
Maybe I'll do some reading, that should relax me enough to sleep. I hope.
Yesterday was a holiday in hubby's country so him and uncle cooked special food. Since it's a holiday, there was drinking. Hubby didn't have as much as he might have because he has to get up and go to work early. Around 1 am I heard something that sounded like someone walking into the kitchen table. Didn't think much of it. The cat wasn't in bed with us so maybe it was her jumping on the table. Few minutes go by and then I hear someone in the bathroom. There's all this banging and whatnot in the bathroom so I wake hubby up and make him go check. His uncle isn't all that well and I thought maybe something was wrong with him. Little did I realize. Hubby goes to the door and uncle says he's ok. I realize uncle is totally wasted. What I was hearing was he was bumping into things. I roll over to go back to sleep. All of a sudden I smell something like a wood burning stove. Really strong. We don't' have a wood burning stove. As I'm walking through the house it's getting stronger. I go out into the sun room and there is the electric heater turned upside down, smoking away. The tv was knocked off it's stand and there's broken glass all over the sun room carpeting. I see the heater and start screaming and flipping. I turn the heater over and am screaming at hubby to unplug it so I can get it outside. Hubby's all cool and calm telling me to relax. I'm yelling our house could have caught on fire because of this. Then I realize the living room and kitchen are full of smoke, so I start opening windows and doors and turning on all the ceiling fans. As I'm starting to calm down I realize his uncle was so drunk he knocked everything over and NEVER KNEW HE DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At this point the fear and panic turned into anger. I told him uncle has to go. I want him out of my house. The sooner the better. No wonder his wife doesn't want anything to do with him. I don't blame her. I don't want the responsibility either.
Well, 4 am came and hubby got me up to take him to work and I told him I was already up. Never got back to sleep. I've done a lot of thanking to God for taking care of us because things could have been so much worse. Hubby's uncle was still bumping around in his room when we left so I asked hubby if he was still so drunk. Hubby said he thought he was felling better now. I told hubby to talk to him and tell him what he did. That he can not be left alone to drink in our house ever again. Hubby's response was that at least the tv wasn't broken! I told him I didn't care about the tv, that can be replaced. We could be homeless, or worse right now. Did he think about that?? And it would all be his uncles fault. I still want him out. I have to work on hubby about that one though.
So I called off from work because I've maybe had 3 hours of sleep all night. I'm still wide awake. Hopefully, now that I'm calmer I can get a few hours of sleep. I've decided I'm going to do the baking for the fair this weekend since I'll have the time. That way no rushing after I get home the rest of the week.
Maybe I'll do some reading, that should relax me enough to sleep. I hope.
Monday, October 27, 2008
Learning to say "no"
I ran into a friend of mine in the supermarket today. We had missed each other at knitting class on Thursday. I walked right past here and never saw here, lol. She saw me after I got in but every time she looked my way I was looking down. I wanted to say hi after class, but sometime before it was over, she had left. It had been such a long day that all I was concentrating on was just relaxing for an hour. A whole hour to myself, lol!! We were talking today about how busy it's been lately. Her and her husband were getting ready to go away for a few days, then back later in the week. The day of class she was going to spend with her father and then her and her husband were leaving again for the weekend. She was debating on going to class. I was telling here that on thursday I have an inservice all afternoon. I wouldn't be done until 5. Class is at 6. Another busy day of running and not getting home until late. She asked me what I was going to do, the inservice or class. She said she wasn't going to class. It was just to much this week. I'm thinking, I'm going to take the wait and see approach. Class is very relaxing for me. It's my only time lately I get totally to myself. I'm thinking I just might need that. This weekend is the craft fair and the school that the oldest has to help out with. I have to do the baking for. They are requesting that parents bring 4 to 6 baked goods for the baked goods table. That means for me to do that I have to bake 2 things each afternoon when I get home from work. No baking on Thursday, weather I go to class or not. Then Friday I have to have the oldest at the school early to set up, and then every day over the weekend to work the fair. No matter how I look at it, it's a very busy week for me. Again. Glad I took today to do not much of anything. I need the rest. I have a feeling this weekend is going to be another do nothing weekend.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Sunday
Decided to do an entry while I drink my morning tea and before the day really gets started for me. Yesterday was a rainy day, with lots of rain and wind in the evening. Since it was our anniversary, hubby and I had planned on going out to eat. Just the 2 of us. We had been talking through the week about what we were going to do. I wanted to go shopping and then out to eat. Hubby told me he was willing to take me shopping to the dollar store and that was about it because he's broke, lol. Such a funny man sometimes. I decided to look online for a pic of what I wanted for our anniversary. Hubby can sometimes be really bad about giving me gifts. Sometimes when he's clueless, he'll just give me money or take me shopping and tell me to pick something out. That's ok sometimes, but not always. Anyway, I had everything planned. Hubby got home from work early. He hands me a card when he gets in the car and then when we get home, he is standing in the bedroom and calls me in. Usually, when he calls me in as soon as he's gotten home it means he has money for me to pay a bill with. I'm grumbling to myself why this may is giving me money on a Saturday night. That means I have to hold onto it until Monday when I can go to the bank. I prefer him to give me money to deposit in the morning. It's not that I want to spend the money, I just hate being responsible for such large amounts. Every month he pays each credit card off. Sometimes, they are high. Anyway, got sidetracked. I walk in the bedroom and the man has this box in his hand and gives it to me. Inside is a pair of earrings. He had the fool bring back a pair of earrings for me for our anniversary. All this time I've been reminding him thinking he was going to forget, lol. The earrings are perfect. I can wear them everyday. They aren't to big or to heavy. The other pair I have are large and a little on the heavy side. I have to take them out at night. These new ones are small, light and just what I wanted for everyday. Putting them back in will be a chore in itself. They are small hoops and I had to have hubby put them in because I couldn't get the back piece in the hole in the hoop. I have to make sure they are secure because the very first pair hubby got me I lost one. Fell right out of my ear while I was out shopping. The second pair he got me I broke the spring in the middle of. The last pair I got I only wear occasionally. They are basically the same as the ones I broke, but more colorful and heavier. So, since he got me something that ended my plans to show him what I wanted. We did end up going to this new store that I've been to twice. The man really didn't want to go, but agreed. I knew once I got this man in this store he would enjoy it. He did. We walked every inch of this store. The man missed nothing, lol. I was getting tired and the man is looking at Christmas stuff. He was looking at a lighted, animated raindeer to put in the yard for Christmas. I told him to wait until at least December to think about buying something like that. We haven't even passed Thanksgiving yet, lol!! An hour and a half later I finally drug him out of the store, lol. We decided to go eat Chinese. There is a buffet that we really like to go to. Only problem was, this place was just so hot inside. We had been talking about Chinese since it's been ages since we had Chinese. It's been ages since we ate out period. All in all it was a good night. We finally had some unrushed time together to just talk and be together. That meant more to me than anything he could have bought me.
I actually did yesterday what I set out to do. Nothing. A few loads of laundry, but that is never ending anyway. No cleaning and no cooking. It was great. I got a list of stuff I want to start as gifts so I accomplished what I wanted to. It felt really good to do nothing, it's been a long time since I've done that.
I have the same thing planned today, nothing, lol. I might run into Htown to walmart to pick up a few things I need for the gifts, but other than that, nothing much.
The oldest work me up this morning wanting a ride to work. He took his bike to work yesterday, but didn't bring it home because it was windy and he didn't want to ride home in the wind. This morning he wants a ride. I told him to take his brothers bike, lol. I was just up taking hubby to work at 4 am and then the oldest wakes me and wants a ride at 7 am. Not happening!! We're going to have to work something out when it gets really cold here, because there is just no way I'm getting up twice on the weekends to run them. For the past 2 weeks hubby has been working days, which has been really nice. The fool has been working from 1 pm to 1 am. Supposedly. Actually he starts work about 2 or 3 in the afternoon. Because he shows up late, hubby has to work an extra hour or so later. Anyway, hubby was telling me that he's going back to night work soon. Ugh!!! The excuse the fool is giving him is that he has to work days so he can sign paperwork. What a load of crap! He doesn't want to work nights because he's afraid of being robbed. He just doesn't like working nights. Well, who does?? Does he really think hubby does?? I'm wondering how long the getting up and opening at 4 am is going to last though. I thought maybe the nights would work a little longer for him because he can sleep all morning. I'm thinking maybe he is bringing the American woman back. He'll have her open and then he can come downstairs around 10 or 11 like before. Have her leave at 1 and hubby start at 4 so the fool will only be actually working for 3 hours. Time will tell on that one.
I actually did yesterday what I set out to do. Nothing. A few loads of laundry, but that is never ending anyway. No cleaning and no cooking. It was great. I got a list of stuff I want to start as gifts so I accomplished what I wanted to. It felt really good to do nothing, it's been a long time since I've done that.
I have the same thing planned today, nothing, lol. I might run into Htown to walmart to pick up a few things I need for the gifts, but other than that, nothing much.
The oldest work me up this morning wanting a ride to work. He took his bike to work yesterday, but didn't bring it home because it was windy and he didn't want to ride home in the wind. This morning he wants a ride. I told him to take his brothers bike, lol. I was just up taking hubby to work at 4 am and then the oldest wakes me and wants a ride at 7 am. Not happening!! We're going to have to work something out when it gets really cold here, because there is just no way I'm getting up twice on the weekends to run them. For the past 2 weeks hubby has been working days, which has been really nice. The fool has been working from 1 pm to 1 am. Supposedly. Actually he starts work about 2 or 3 in the afternoon. Because he shows up late, hubby has to work an extra hour or so later. Anyway, hubby was telling me that he's going back to night work soon. Ugh!!! The excuse the fool is giving him is that he has to work days so he can sign paperwork. What a load of crap! He doesn't want to work nights because he's afraid of being robbed. He just doesn't like working nights. Well, who does?? Does he really think hubby does?? I'm wondering how long the getting up and opening at 4 am is going to last though. I thought maybe the nights would work a little longer for him because he can sleep all morning. I'm thinking maybe he is bringing the American woman back. He'll have her open and then he can come downstairs around 10 or 11 like before. Have her leave at 1 and hubby start at 4 so the fool will only be actually working for 3 hours. Time will tell on that one.
Friday, October 24, 2008
Very long week!!!!
I hadn't realized it's been so long since I've been on here. Almost a week, wow! I havne't been to any journals lately either. Well, today is Friday and I'm so glad. I thought the weekend would never get here. I plan on doing not much outside of the house. It's supposed to rain tomorrow and possibly into Sunday. Fine by me, I have lots of stuff I want to get started.
Last Monday I got nothing done. Had to take uncle to see his lawyer. An hour and a half drive each way! We left home around noon and got back home for the day about 4:30/5:00. What a long drive. I was so confused getting there. I had never been to that part of town and don't look forward to it again, ever, lol! Tuesday was dentist day so it was a half day. I woke up so ache with such a headache, I cancelled the appt and went home and crawled back into bed. I slept until around 4 or so. Guess I really needed the rest. Wednesday was back to work and back to normal. I actually planned the rest of the week to use the crock pot for dinner so that was done. Planned on going to Bible study, but my avon lady was coming and didn't show up until after it started, so I didn't go. I don't like showing up anywhere late. So that time was used to play catch up with the laundry and housework. Thursday I decided to make the boys start doing chores again. This is just to much work for me. I'm still doing housework until 8 and 9 pm. That's just not right!! So, they have been having a list to do everyday. Their chores are shorter on days the oldest works or they have youth group, but they still have to do something daily. Including weekends. I never had them do chores on weekends, but they have them now. I don't know what happened that I have fallen so behind, but I have. Yesterday, was dentist day right after work. I now know he works at that office all week, except on Friday. Good for me. Anyway, I was the last patient of the day for him. I didn't think he was going to do much since my mouth still hurts when I open it to a certain point. He said it's still healing and to keep putting the warm compresses on it, especially at night, to keep it from stiffening up on me. Like I have time to do that, lol!! He did the last of the fillings, needle free,(yay!!) and started working on my new teeth, which approval has come through for. So, as of now, I have no appt. I have to wait until they come into the dentist office, then I can make an appt. The receptionist was telling me that it takes a total of 5 visits to have everything done. Each time after you have a visit, it takes 2 to 3 weeks for them to come back to the office so you can make an appt. OMG!!!!!! I was hoping to have new teeth by the holidays, it's looking more like next year at this point! Since I was the very last patient, he kept asking everyone about their dinner. Guess he was hungry, lol. First thing he asked me was what I was making for dinner. Um, it's in the crock pot because I wanted to eat and run tonight. I knew Thursday was going to be long, because I wanted to go knit. I wanted to get to the dentist because of the pain in my mouth. I didn't want to wake up one morning and be in extreme pain and not be able to open my mouth again. I don't ever want to go through that again! So here it is Friday, hopefully the boys will go to youth group, and I'll have some down time. Tomorrow I have to get a list together of what I want to make people for Christmas and start using my Monday's off to work on this stuff. I know it's early yet, but I'm going to need lots of time. I am in no mood to be going anywhere. I want to stay home and do what I want to do. I think I need it now. Next week isn't looking as crazy and I have no intention of letting it get that way either.
Hubby's uncle still has to go to court. Don't know when that will be, but hubby is going with me for sure. That will be another long, long night for me.
I'm looking forward to a 3 day hibernation, lol!!
Last Monday I got nothing done. Had to take uncle to see his lawyer. An hour and a half drive each way! We left home around noon and got back home for the day about 4:30/5:00. What a long drive. I was so confused getting there. I had never been to that part of town and don't look forward to it again, ever, lol! Tuesday was dentist day so it was a half day. I woke up so ache with such a headache, I cancelled the appt and went home and crawled back into bed. I slept until around 4 or so. Guess I really needed the rest. Wednesday was back to work and back to normal. I actually planned the rest of the week to use the crock pot for dinner so that was done. Planned on going to Bible study, but my avon lady was coming and didn't show up until after it started, so I didn't go. I don't like showing up anywhere late. So that time was used to play catch up with the laundry and housework. Thursday I decided to make the boys start doing chores again. This is just to much work for me. I'm still doing housework until 8 and 9 pm. That's just not right!! So, they have been having a list to do everyday. Their chores are shorter on days the oldest works or they have youth group, but they still have to do something daily. Including weekends. I never had them do chores on weekends, but they have them now. I don't know what happened that I have fallen so behind, but I have. Yesterday, was dentist day right after work. I now know he works at that office all week, except on Friday. Good for me. Anyway, I was the last patient of the day for him. I didn't think he was going to do much since my mouth still hurts when I open it to a certain point. He said it's still healing and to keep putting the warm compresses on it, especially at night, to keep it from stiffening up on me. Like I have time to do that, lol!! He did the last of the fillings, needle free,(yay!!) and started working on my new teeth, which approval has come through for. So, as of now, I have no appt. I have to wait until they come into the dentist office, then I can make an appt. The receptionist was telling me that it takes a total of 5 visits to have everything done. Each time after you have a visit, it takes 2 to 3 weeks for them to come back to the office so you can make an appt. OMG!!!!!! I was hoping to have new teeth by the holidays, it's looking more like next year at this point! Since I was the very last patient, he kept asking everyone about their dinner. Guess he was hungry, lol. First thing he asked me was what I was making for dinner. Um, it's in the crock pot because I wanted to eat and run tonight. I knew Thursday was going to be long, because I wanted to go knit. I wanted to get to the dentist because of the pain in my mouth. I didn't want to wake up one morning and be in extreme pain and not be able to open my mouth again. I don't ever want to go through that again! So here it is Friday, hopefully the boys will go to youth group, and I'll have some down time. Tomorrow I have to get a list together of what I want to make people for Christmas and start using my Monday's off to work on this stuff. I know it's early yet, but I'm going to need lots of time. I am in no mood to be going anywhere. I want to stay home and do what I want to do. I think I need it now. Next week isn't looking as crazy and I have no intention of letting it get that way either.
Hubby's uncle still has to go to court. Don't know when that will be, but hubby is going with me for sure. That will be another long, long night for me.
I'm looking forward to a 3 day hibernation, lol!!
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Sunday
Wow, I finally figured out how to make the type bigger! Guess I should just play around some more. Imagine what I could discover, lol.
Today seems to be my relaxing day. Yesterday I went shopping and felt better when I was done. Then instead of doing nothing, I gave the living room a really good cleaning. Every time when I walk in the door hubby's uncle jumps up and tells me to sit down and watch tv, lol. Only one of our tv's is connected to dish. It's the main one we use. He watches that one because that's the one that gets the Indian channels on it. But, the man has to know I don't get a lot of time to sit down and watch tv all day. There are some days I would love to do that, but not likely.
Went to church this morning and was feeling really good after I got home. Nice and peaceful. That was short lived when I got a piece of news that I have to break to hubby. He's not going to like it. I'm not going to like telling him, lol. The pastor who left the church about a year ago was there today. Him and his family moved down to Virginia around this time last year. I was surprised to see him. He looked like he lost weight in the face, but his belly has gotten much bigger, lol. He gave up the church due to health problems. He was telling me about his family and what everyone's been up to. He seemed really happy down there. It was nice seeing him again. I'm sorry hubby couldn't make it to church. Hubby really liked him to. They boys friend J went to church with us this morning to. I was surprised. I didn't ask him because I didn't think he would want to go. We've asked in the past and he always refused. Glad he went. It's made for a much calmer house today. The oldest didn't go. I had talked to hubby about the oldest going because he hasn't made it to church in quite a while, but it was hard getting ready for church this morning. Twenty minutes and 3 pairs of pantyhose later I was ready to get dressed, lol. I was determined I was going to win this battle. It seemed like everything I put on this morning didn't fit right. Then I remembered I'm bloated and needed to wear something larger than I normally would. Four outfits later I finally had something on that looked acceptable to me. I'm finally ready and then the youngest has a problem. His pants don't fit, to small. Now, yesterday we all got our clothes for church out, hoping to avoid this problem. So much for the attempt, lol. He was set on wearing this horrific shirt which reminds me of a bowling shirt, but uglier. It was really hard finding pants to go with this shirt. As we are finally getting ready to walk out the door hubby calls. Wants to know what I'm doing. So I told him and then he told me I could come and get the oldest. Well, it's 10:50 and church starts at 11 am and it usually takes about 15 minutes to get there. I told him I had no time to get the oldest and we were running late as it was. Why this man would call so late is beyond me.
The house is very quiet now. I believe all the kids are gone. The boys friend's parents are supposed to be here sometime today to get him. I don't know what the problem is, but they were here yesterday and they were all shouting and arguing with each other. I really feel bad, but I just can't keep doing this. I can't let these people keep doing this. I can't change my mind now and let him stay because that will just open me up to be taken advantage of more and more. But, I've done my part, did what I could.
Hubbys uncle has a lawyer appt tomorrow. I asked hubby about it the other day. His uncle changed the appt on Thursday and never said anything to me. I had to ask hubby. Why would you do this if you expect me to drop everything and run you. The least he could do is tell me ahead to time. Maybe that's why he's being so nice to me lately. He's figured out that even though hubby may say I'm going to do something for him, but if I don't want to I'm not going to and it's not worth the hassle, lol. A little respect is all I ask for.
Today seems to be my relaxing day. Yesterday I went shopping and felt better when I was done. Then instead of doing nothing, I gave the living room a really good cleaning. Every time when I walk in the door hubby's uncle jumps up and tells me to sit down and watch tv, lol. Only one of our tv's is connected to dish. It's the main one we use. He watches that one because that's the one that gets the Indian channels on it. But, the man has to know I don't get a lot of time to sit down and watch tv all day. There are some days I would love to do that, but not likely.
Went to church this morning and was feeling really good after I got home. Nice and peaceful. That was short lived when I got a piece of news that I have to break to hubby. He's not going to like it. I'm not going to like telling him, lol. The pastor who left the church about a year ago was there today. Him and his family moved down to Virginia around this time last year. I was surprised to see him. He looked like he lost weight in the face, but his belly has gotten much bigger, lol. He gave up the church due to health problems. He was telling me about his family and what everyone's been up to. He seemed really happy down there. It was nice seeing him again. I'm sorry hubby couldn't make it to church. Hubby really liked him to. They boys friend J went to church with us this morning to. I was surprised. I didn't ask him because I didn't think he would want to go. We've asked in the past and he always refused. Glad he went. It's made for a much calmer house today. The oldest didn't go. I had talked to hubby about the oldest going because he hasn't made it to church in quite a while, but it was hard getting ready for church this morning. Twenty minutes and 3 pairs of pantyhose later I was ready to get dressed, lol. I was determined I was going to win this battle. It seemed like everything I put on this morning didn't fit right. Then I remembered I'm bloated and needed to wear something larger than I normally would. Four outfits later I finally had something on that looked acceptable to me. I'm finally ready and then the youngest has a problem. His pants don't fit, to small. Now, yesterday we all got our clothes for church out, hoping to avoid this problem. So much for the attempt, lol. He was set on wearing this horrific shirt which reminds me of a bowling shirt, but uglier. It was really hard finding pants to go with this shirt. As we are finally getting ready to walk out the door hubby calls. Wants to know what I'm doing. So I told him and then he told me I could come and get the oldest. Well, it's 10:50 and church starts at 11 am and it usually takes about 15 minutes to get there. I told him I had no time to get the oldest and we were running late as it was. Why this man would call so late is beyond me.
The house is very quiet now. I believe all the kids are gone. The boys friend's parents are supposed to be here sometime today to get him. I don't know what the problem is, but they were here yesterday and they were all shouting and arguing with each other. I really feel bad, but I just can't keep doing this. I can't let these people keep doing this. I can't change my mind now and let him stay because that will just open me up to be taken advantage of more and more. But, I've done my part, did what I could.
Hubbys uncle has a lawyer appt tomorrow. I asked hubby about it the other day. His uncle changed the appt on Thursday and never said anything to me. I had to ask hubby. Why would you do this if you expect me to drop everything and run you. The least he could do is tell me ahead to time. Maybe that's why he's being so nice to me lately. He's figured out that even though hubby may say I'm going to do something for him, but if I don't want to I'm not going to and it's not worth the hassle, lol. A little respect is all I ask for.
Saturday, October 18, 2008
In desperate need of time away
So glad the weekend is finally here. This week seems to have just taken it's good old time creeping on by. I fully intend to do some retail therapy for myself today. Child free, lol!! My plans all week have been to do nothing but relax. I'm so tired of going to work and coming home and doing housework to, I need a break, lol!
Yesterday the boys were supposed to go to youth group. Since my youngest decided to take over contacting people to bring snacks, he had to go. He hasn't been at youth group because of going to the games the past 2 weeks. Nobody scheduled to bring snacks this week but him. So, as soon as they get off the bus I take the oldest and we go into Htown. It's a little farther,but if we went to Ptown or Hilltown, it's not as cheap as Htown. So I made the drive. Payless is having BOGO so I made a detour and came out with 2 pairs of heals and 2 pairs of flats, lol. They had some really cute boots I might go back for next week. That has to be after the bills are paid though. Forgot to stop for some more yarn I need to finish my project, but I can do that today after I drop off my time sheet since I'll be in Htown again anyway.
As soon as my oldest gets in the car he tells me that his friend J wants to come and stay with us again. For 2 weeks! This is not the time to tell me this. It's Friday, I'm tired, it's been a long week and I had plans on chasing everyone out of the house all day and just doing whatever I wanted to do. Not cleaning and doing laundry. Then it sinks in that he said 2 weeks. I ask him who told the kid he could stay for 2 weeks?? My son's like I don't know mom, but I can't keep having him here. Ok, so getting tired of each other. On the way home we come up to out driveway and there is a red pickup truck coming out if it. My oldest says it's J's moms truck. Sure enough it is. And there's just her in it. He says he hopes she didn't just drop her kid off. I'm thinking the same thing. We decide to drive on by and go see hubby since it's time to get him now anyway. Hubby's working daytime now and is supposed to be getting done around 4 pm. We walk in the store and the fool is gone and hubby is busy. The fool has been gone since noon. Said he would be back in 30 minutes when he left. The fool works from 1 pm to 1 am. Guess that was better than working 4 am, since he likes to sleep and doesn't crawl out of bed until noon anyway. The fool's going back to India the end of November anyway so this is only temporary I'm sure. Anyway, I leave the oldest to start stocking. The fool walks in as I'm leaving. I get home and there's the boys friend, J. This is the last thing I wanted this weekend. I'm also angry that this woman would just drop her kid off at my house without even contacting me to see if it's ok. What kind of mother does that?? So I decided to tell the kid he could only stay the weekend and then he has to have his mother come and get him on Sunday. I don't like being that way, but right now I feel like she's taking advantage of us. We were kind enough to take her kid in because of the situation they are in, but to just drop your child and not say anything, you've gone to far and gotten me angry. We aren't related to these people, we are total strangers to them. Once again I've been taken advantage of for being nice. So when I talked to the kid I asked him why he wasn't staying with his mom and dad. They are staying with friends of theirs and had no place to put him. Correct me if I'm wrong, but when you're a parent aren't you supposed to make sure your children are taken care of by you, no matter what?? If worse comes to worse and you can't aren't you supposed to make sure you kids are taken care of first?? Why would you go stay at a place where there is no room for your kids?? The parents were staying with their daughter, but that only lasted a few days and she kicked them out. Not even going there. This kid J only spent one night at the friend house the parents are staying at and then went the next day to stay with another friend of his. They only kept him until Friday. That's why he appeared on our doorstep. Hubby's upset because this woman just dropped this kid and didn't say anything, but he's willing to let him stay. I'm not. The boys are all getting on each others nerves, no one sleeps at night. Having this kid here disrupts their schedule to much. It's bad enough uncle is still here. He' s another irritating situation all together, lol.
Well, I guess I should go back to bed now that I've gotten most of this out. Took hubby to work and he never started the car because he couldn't find the car keys so we were sitting in a cold car waiting for it do defrost. Definitely got frost last night so everything is done growing outside now for sure. I'm headed back to bed to warm up, lol.
Yesterday the boys were supposed to go to youth group. Since my youngest decided to take over contacting people to bring snacks, he had to go. He hasn't been at youth group because of going to the games the past 2 weeks. Nobody scheduled to bring snacks this week but him. So, as soon as they get off the bus I take the oldest and we go into Htown. It's a little farther,but if we went to Ptown or Hilltown, it's not as cheap as Htown. So I made the drive. Payless is having BOGO so I made a detour and came out with 2 pairs of heals and 2 pairs of flats, lol. They had some really cute boots I might go back for next week. That has to be after the bills are paid though. Forgot to stop for some more yarn I need to finish my project, but I can do that today after I drop off my time sheet since I'll be in Htown again anyway.
As soon as my oldest gets in the car he tells me that his friend J wants to come and stay with us again. For 2 weeks! This is not the time to tell me this. It's Friday, I'm tired, it's been a long week and I had plans on chasing everyone out of the house all day and just doing whatever I wanted to do. Not cleaning and doing laundry. Then it sinks in that he said 2 weeks. I ask him who told the kid he could stay for 2 weeks?? My son's like I don't know mom, but I can't keep having him here. Ok, so getting tired of each other. On the way home we come up to out driveway and there is a red pickup truck coming out if it. My oldest says it's J's moms truck. Sure enough it is. And there's just her in it. He says he hopes she didn't just drop her kid off. I'm thinking the same thing. We decide to drive on by and go see hubby since it's time to get him now anyway. Hubby's working daytime now and is supposed to be getting done around 4 pm. We walk in the store and the fool is gone and hubby is busy. The fool has been gone since noon. Said he would be back in 30 minutes when he left. The fool works from 1 pm to 1 am. Guess that was better than working 4 am, since he likes to sleep and doesn't crawl out of bed until noon anyway. The fool's going back to India the end of November anyway so this is only temporary I'm sure. Anyway, I leave the oldest to start stocking. The fool walks in as I'm leaving. I get home and there's the boys friend, J. This is the last thing I wanted this weekend. I'm also angry that this woman would just drop her kid off at my house without even contacting me to see if it's ok. What kind of mother does that?? So I decided to tell the kid he could only stay the weekend and then he has to have his mother come and get him on Sunday. I don't like being that way, but right now I feel like she's taking advantage of us. We were kind enough to take her kid in because of the situation they are in, but to just drop your child and not say anything, you've gone to far and gotten me angry. We aren't related to these people, we are total strangers to them. Once again I've been taken advantage of for being nice. So when I talked to the kid I asked him why he wasn't staying with his mom and dad. They are staying with friends of theirs and had no place to put him. Correct me if I'm wrong, but when you're a parent aren't you supposed to make sure your children are taken care of by you, no matter what?? If worse comes to worse and you can't aren't you supposed to make sure you kids are taken care of first?? Why would you go stay at a place where there is no room for your kids?? The parents were staying with their daughter, but that only lasted a few days and she kicked them out. Not even going there. This kid J only spent one night at the friend house the parents are staying at and then went the next day to stay with another friend of his. They only kept him until Friday. That's why he appeared on our doorstep. Hubby's upset because this woman just dropped this kid and didn't say anything, but he's willing to let him stay. I'm not. The boys are all getting on each others nerves, no one sleeps at night. Having this kid here disrupts their schedule to much. It's bad enough uncle is still here. He' s another irritating situation all together, lol.
Well, I guess I should go back to bed now that I've gotten most of this out. Took hubby to work and he never started the car because he couldn't find the car keys so we were sitting in a cold car waiting for it do defrost. Definitely got frost last night so everything is done growing outside now for sure. I'm headed back to bed to warm up, lol.
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