Got a few hours of sleep, but I just feel totally exhausted. My plan for the day is to bake. I bought boxed bread mixes for the fair. Should be fairly easy. I think I can get them all done today. Other than that I have to clean the sun room and water my plants. I forgot over the weekend and some are giving me the hint, lol.
Yesterday we got out first snow fall. I was really pretty, big flakes. We got maybe an inch, just enough to make everything slushy, since it had been raining before it turned to snow. Some of the higher elevations up North got up to 8"s of snow. One good thing about living farther South in the state is we usually miss a lot of the significant snow fall. Not always though, lol. Now I have to get outside this weekend and do all those things I've been putting off. I think I'm out of time now.
Had a chat with the boys about the chores they are refusing to do. Basically it was if you don't help to keep it clean, than you don't use it. Period. Got lots of help after that. I am going to start making them do their own laundry and help me cook. The oldest is clueless about both and these are things they really do need to learn for when they are on their own anyway.
That's about it for now.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Sleepless night
It's early am and I haven't been able to get back to sleep yet so I thought maybe writing out what's bothering me will help so I can sleep.
Yesterday was a holiday in hubby's country so him and uncle cooked special food. Since it's a holiday, there was drinking. Hubby didn't have as much as he might have because he has to get up and go to work early. Around 1 am I heard something that sounded like someone walking into the kitchen table. Didn't think much of it. The cat wasn't in bed with us so maybe it was her jumping on the table. Few minutes go by and then I hear someone in the bathroom. There's all this banging and whatnot in the bathroom so I wake hubby up and make him go check. His uncle isn't all that well and I thought maybe something was wrong with him. Little did I realize. Hubby goes to the door and uncle says he's ok. I realize uncle is totally wasted. What I was hearing was he was bumping into things. I roll over to go back to sleep. All of a sudden I smell something like a wood burning stove. Really strong. We don't' have a wood burning stove. As I'm walking through the house it's getting stronger. I go out into the sun room and there is the electric heater turned upside down, smoking away. The tv was knocked off it's stand and there's broken glass all over the sun room carpeting. I see the heater and start screaming and flipping. I turn the heater over and am screaming at hubby to unplug it so I can get it outside. Hubby's all cool and calm telling me to relax. I'm yelling our house could have caught on fire because of this. Then I realize the living room and kitchen are full of smoke, so I start opening windows and doors and turning on all the ceiling fans. As I'm starting to calm down I realize his uncle was so drunk he knocked everything over and NEVER KNEW HE DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At this point the fear and panic turned into anger. I told him uncle has to go. I want him out of my house. The sooner the better. No wonder his wife doesn't want anything to do with him. I don't blame her. I don't want the responsibility either.
Well, 4 am came and hubby got me up to take him to work and I told him I was already up. Never got back to sleep. I've done a lot of thanking to God for taking care of us because things could have been so much worse. Hubby's uncle was still bumping around in his room when we left so I asked hubby if he was still so drunk. Hubby said he thought he was felling better now. I told hubby to talk to him and tell him what he did. That he can not be left alone to drink in our house ever again. Hubby's response was that at least the tv wasn't broken! I told him I didn't care about the tv, that can be replaced. We could be homeless, or worse right now. Did he think about that?? And it would all be his uncles fault. I still want him out. I have to work on hubby about that one though.
So I called off from work because I've maybe had 3 hours of sleep all night. I'm still wide awake. Hopefully, now that I'm calmer I can get a few hours of sleep. I've decided I'm going to do the baking for the fair this weekend since I'll have the time. That way no rushing after I get home the rest of the week.
Maybe I'll do some reading, that should relax me enough to sleep. I hope.
Yesterday was a holiday in hubby's country so him and uncle cooked special food. Since it's a holiday, there was drinking. Hubby didn't have as much as he might have because he has to get up and go to work early. Around 1 am I heard something that sounded like someone walking into the kitchen table. Didn't think much of it. The cat wasn't in bed with us so maybe it was her jumping on the table. Few minutes go by and then I hear someone in the bathroom. There's all this banging and whatnot in the bathroom so I wake hubby up and make him go check. His uncle isn't all that well and I thought maybe something was wrong with him. Little did I realize. Hubby goes to the door and uncle says he's ok. I realize uncle is totally wasted. What I was hearing was he was bumping into things. I roll over to go back to sleep. All of a sudden I smell something like a wood burning stove. Really strong. We don't' have a wood burning stove. As I'm walking through the house it's getting stronger. I go out into the sun room and there is the electric heater turned upside down, smoking away. The tv was knocked off it's stand and there's broken glass all over the sun room carpeting. I see the heater and start screaming and flipping. I turn the heater over and am screaming at hubby to unplug it so I can get it outside. Hubby's all cool and calm telling me to relax. I'm yelling our house could have caught on fire because of this. Then I realize the living room and kitchen are full of smoke, so I start opening windows and doors and turning on all the ceiling fans. As I'm starting to calm down I realize his uncle was so drunk he knocked everything over and NEVER KNEW HE DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! At this point the fear and panic turned into anger. I told him uncle has to go. I want him out of my house. The sooner the better. No wonder his wife doesn't want anything to do with him. I don't blame her. I don't want the responsibility either.
Well, 4 am came and hubby got me up to take him to work and I told him I was already up. Never got back to sleep. I've done a lot of thanking to God for taking care of us because things could have been so much worse. Hubby's uncle was still bumping around in his room when we left so I asked hubby if he was still so drunk. Hubby said he thought he was felling better now. I told hubby to talk to him and tell him what he did. That he can not be left alone to drink in our house ever again. Hubby's response was that at least the tv wasn't broken! I told him I didn't care about the tv, that can be replaced. We could be homeless, or worse right now. Did he think about that?? And it would all be his uncles fault. I still want him out. I have to work on hubby about that one though.
So I called off from work because I've maybe had 3 hours of sleep all night. I'm still wide awake. Hopefully, now that I'm calmer I can get a few hours of sleep. I've decided I'm going to do the baking for the fair this weekend since I'll have the time. That way no rushing after I get home the rest of the week.
Maybe I'll do some reading, that should relax me enough to sleep. I hope.
Monday, October 27, 2008
Learning to say "no"
I ran into a friend of mine in the supermarket today. We had missed each other at knitting class on Thursday. I walked right past here and never saw here, lol. She saw me after I got in but every time she looked my way I was looking down. I wanted to say hi after class, but sometime before it was over, she had left. It had been such a long day that all I was concentrating on was just relaxing for an hour. A whole hour to myself, lol!! We were talking today about how busy it's been lately. Her and her husband were getting ready to go away for a few days, then back later in the week. The day of class she was going to spend with her father and then her and her husband were leaving again for the weekend. She was debating on going to class. I was telling here that on thursday I have an inservice all afternoon. I wouldn't be done until 5. Class is at 6. Another busy day of running and not getting home until late. She asked me what I was going to do, the inservice or class. She said she wasn't going to class. It was just to much this week. I'm thinking, I'm going to take the wait and see approach. Class is very relaxing for me. It's my only time lately I get totally to myself. I'm thinking I just might need that. This weekend is the craft fair and the school that the oldest has to help out with. I have to do the baking for. They are requesting that parents bring 4 to 6 baked goods for the baked goods table. That means for me to do that I have to bake 2 things each afternoon when I get home from work. No baking on Thursday, weather I go to class or not. Then Friday I have to have the oldest at the school early to set up, and then every day over the weekend to work the fair. No matter how I look at it, it's a very busy week for me. Again. Glad I took today to do not much of anything. I need the rest. I have a feeling this weekend is going to be another do nothing weekend.
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Sunday
Decided to do an entry while I drink my morning tea and before the day really gets started for me. Yesterday was a rainy day, with lots of rain and wind in the evening. Since it was our anniversary, hubby and I had planned on going out to eat. Just the 2 of us. We had been talking through the week about what we were going to do. I wanted to go shopping and then out to eat. Hubby told me he was willing to take me shopping to the dollar store and that was about it because he's broke, lol. Such a funny man sometimes. I decided to look online for a pic of what I wanted for our anniversary. Hubby can sometimes be really bad about giving me gifts. Sometimes when he's clueless, he'll just give me money or take me shopping and tell me to pick something out. That's ok sometimes, but not always. Anyway, I had everything planned. Hubby got home from work early. He hands me a card when he gets in the car and then when we get home, he is standing in the bedroom and calls me in. Usually, when he calls me in as soon as he's gotten home it means he has money for me to pay a bill with. I'm grumbling to myself why this may is giving me money on a Saturday night. That means I have to hold onto it until Monday when I can go to the bank. I prefer him to give me money to deposit in the morning. It's not that I want to spend the money, I just hate being responsible for such large amounts. Every month he pays each credit card off. Sometimes, they are high. Anyway, got sidetracked. I walk in the bedroom and the man has this box in his hand and gives it to me. Inside is a pair of earrings. He had the fool bring back a pair of earrings for me for our anniversary. All this time I've been reminding him thinking he was going to forget, lol. The earrings are perfect. I can wear them everyday. They aren't to big or to heavy. The other pair I have are large and a little on the heavy side. I have to take them out at night. These new ones are small, light and just what I wanted for everyday. Putting them back in will be a chore in itself. They are small hoops and I had to have hubby put them in because I couldn't get the back piece in the hole in the hoop. I have to make sure they are secure because the very first pair hubby got me I lost one. Fell right out of my ear while I was out shopping. The second pair he got me I broke the spring in the middle of. The last pair I got I only wear occasionally. They are basically the same as the ones I broke, but more colorful and heavier. So, since he got me something that ended my plans to show him what I wanted. We did end up going to this new store that I've been to twice. The man really didn't want to go, but agreed. I knew once I got this man in this store he would enjoy it. He did. We walked every inch of this store. The man missed nothing, lol. I was getting tired and the man is looking at Christmas stuff. He was looking at a lighted, animated raindeer to put in the yard for Christmas. I told him to wait until at least December to think about buying something like that. We haven't even passed Thanksgiving yet, lol!! An hour and a half later I finally drug him out of the store, lol. We decided to go eat Chinese. There is a buffet that we really like to go to. Only problem was, this place was just so hot inside. We had been talking about Chinese since it's been ages since we had Chinese. It's been ages since we ate out period. All in all it was a good night. We finally had some unrushed time together to just talk and be together. That meant more to me than anything he could have bought me.
I actually did yesterday what I set out to do. Nothing. A few loads of laundry, but that is never ending anyway. No cleaning and no cooking. It was great. I got a list of stuff I want to start as gifts so I accomplished what I wanted to. It felt really good to do nothing, it's been a long time since I've done that.
I have the same thing planned today, nothing, lol. I might run into Htown to walmart to pick up a few things I need for the gifts, but other than that, nothing much.
The oldest work me up this morning wanting a ride to work. He took his bike to work yesterday, but didn't bring it home because it was windy and he didn't want to ride home in the wind. This morning he wants a ride. I told him to take his brothers bike, lol. I was just up taking hubby to work at 4 am and then the oldest wakes me and wants a ride at 7 am. Not happening!! We're going to have to work something out when it gets really cold here, because there is just no way I'm getting up twice on the weekends to run them. For the past 2 weeks hubby has been working days, which has been really nice. The fool has been working from 1 pm to 1 am. Supposedly. Actually he starts work about 2 or 3 in the afternoon. Because he shows up late, hubby has to work an extra hour or so later. Anyway, hubby was telling me that he's going back to night work soon. Ugh!!! The excuse the fool is giving him is that he has to work days so he can sign paperwork. What a load of crap! He doesn't want to work nights because he's afraid of being robbed. He just doesn't like working nights. Well, who does?? Does he really think hubby does?? I'm wondering how long the getting up and opening at 4 am is going to last though. I thought maybe the nights would work a little longer for him because he can sleep all morning. I'm thinking maybe he is bringing the American woman back. He'll have her open and then he can come downstairs around 10 or 11 like before. Have her leave at 1 and hubby start at 4 so the fool will only be actually working for 3 hours. Time will tell on that one.
I actually did yesterday what I set out to do. Nothing. A few loads of laundry, but that is never ending anyway. No cleaning and no cooking. It was great. I got a list of stuff I want to start as gifts so I accomplished what I wanted to. It felt really good to do nothing, it's been a long time since I've done that.
I have the same thing planned today, nothing, lol. I might run into Htown to walmart to pick up a few things I need for the gifts, but other than that, nothing much.
The oldest work me up this morning wanting a ride to work. He took his bike to work yesterday, but didn't bring it home because it was windy and he didn't want to ride home in the wind. This morning he wants a ride. I told him to take his brothers bike, lol. I was just up taking hubby to work at 4 am and then the oldest wakes me and wants a ride at 7 am. Not happening!! We're going to have to work something out when it gets really cold here, because there is just no way I'm getting up twice on the weekends to run them. For the past 2 weeks hubby has been working days, which has been really nice. The fool has been working from 1 pm to 1 am. Supposedly. Actually he starts work about 2 or 3 in the afternoon. Because he shows up late, hubby has to work an extra hour or so later. Anyway, hubby was telling me that he's going back to night work soon. Ugh!!! The excuse the fool is giving him is that he has to work days so he can sign paperwork. What a load of crap! He doesn't want to work nights because he's afraid of being robbed. He just doesn't like working nights. Well, who does?? Does he really think hubby does?? I'm wondering how long the getting up and opening at 4 am is going to last though. I thought maybe the nights would work a little longer for him because he can sleep all morning. I'm thinking maybe he is bringing the American woman back. He'll have her open and then he can come downstairs around 10 or 11 like before. Have her leave at 1 and hubby start at 4 so the fool will only be actually working for 3 hours. Time will tell on that one.
Friday, October 24, 2008
Very long week!!!!
I hadn't realized it's been so long since I've been on here. Almost a week, wow! I havne't been to any journals lately either. Well, today is Friday and I'm so glad. I thought the weekend would never get here. I plan on doing not much outside of the house. It's supposed to rain tomorrow and possibly into Sunday. Fine by me, I have lots of stuff I want to get started.
Last Monday I got nothing done. Had to take uncle to see his lawyer. An hour and a half drive each way! We left home around noon and got back home for the day about 4:30/5:00. What a long drive. I was so confused getting there. I had never been to that part of town and don't look forward to it again, ever, lol! Tuesday was dentist day so it was a half day. I woke up so ache with such a headache, I cancelled the appt and went home and crawled back into bed. I slept until around 4 or so. Guess I really needed the rest. Wednesday was back to work and back to normal. I actually planned the rest of the week to use the crock pot for dinner so that was done. Planned on going to Bible study, but my avon lady was coming and didn't show up until after it started, so I didn't go. I don't like showing up anywhere late. So that time was used to play catch up with the laundry and housework. Thursday I decided to make the boys start doing chores again. This is just to much work for me. I'm still doing housework until 8 and 9 pm. That's just not right!! So, they have been having a list to do everyday. Their chores are shorter on days the oldest works or they have youth group, but they still have to do something daily. Including weekends. I never had them do chores on weekends, but they have them now. I don't know what happened that I have fallen so behind, but I have. Yesterday, was dentist day right after work. I now know he works at that office all week, except on Friday. Good for me. Anyway, I was the last patient of the day for him. I didn't think he was going to do much since my mouth still hurts when I open it to a certain point. He said it's still healing and to keep putting the warm compresses on it, especially at night, to keep it from stiffening up on me. Like I have time to do that, lol!! He did the last of the fillings, needle free,(yay!!) and started working on my new teeth, which approval has come through for. So, as of now, I have no appt. I have to wait until they come into the dentist office, then I can make an appt. The receptionist was telling me that it takes a total of 5 visits to have everything done. Each time after you have a visit, it takes 2 to 3 weeks for them to come back to the office so you can make an appt. OMG!!!!!! I was hoping to have new teeth by the holidays, it's looking more like next year at this point! Since I was the very last patient, he kept asking everyone about their dinner. Guess he was hungry, lol. First thing he asked me was what I was making for dinner. Um, it's in the crock pot because I wanted to eat and run tonight. I knew Thursday was going to be long, because I wanted to go knit. I wanted to get to the dentist because of the pain in my mouth. I didn't want to wake up one morning and be in extreme pain and not be able to open my mouth again. I don't ever want to go through that again! So here it is Friday, hopefully the boys will go to youth group, and I'll have some down time. Tomorrow I have to get a list together of what I want to make people for Christmas and start using my Monday's off to work on this stuff. I know it's early yet, but I'm going to need lots of time. I am in no mood to be going anywhere. I want to stay home and do what I want to do. I think I need it now. Next week isn't looking as crazy and I have no intention of letting it get that way either.
Hubby's uncle still has to go to court. Don't know when that will be, but hubby is going with me for sure. That will be another long, long night for me.
I'm looking forward to a 3 day hibernation, lol!!
Last Monday I got nothing done. Had to take uncle to see his lawyer. An hour and a half drive each way! We left home around noon and got back home for the day about 4:30/5:00. What a long drive. I was so confused getting there. I had never been to that part of town and don't look forward to it again, ever, lol! Tuesday was dentist day so it was a half day. I woke up so ache with such a headache, I cancelled the appt and went home and crawled back into bed. I slept until around 4 or so. Guess I really needed the rest. Wednesday was back to work and back to normal. I actually planned the rest of the week to use the crock pot for dinner so that was done. Planned on going to Bible study, but my avon lady was coming and didn't show up until after it started, so I didn't go. I don't like showing up anywhere late. So that time was used to play catch up with the laundry and housework. Thursday I decided to make the boys start doing chores again. This is just to much work for me. I'm still doing housework until 8 and 9 pm. That's just not right!! So, they have been having a list to do everyday. Their chores are shorter on days the oldest works or they have youth group, but they still have to do something daily. Including weekends. I never had them do chores on weekends, but they have them now. I don't know what happened that I have fallen so behind, but I have. Yesterday, was dentist day right after work. I now know he works at that office all week, except on Friday. Good for me. Anyway, I was the last patient of the day for him. I didn't think he was going to do much since my mouth still hurts when I open it to a certain point. He said it's still healing and to keep putting the warm compresses on it, especially at night, to keep it from stiffening up on me. Like I have time to do that, lol!! He did the last of the fillings, needle free,(yay!!) and started working on my new teeth, which approval has come through for. So, as of now, I have no appt. I have to wait until they come into the dentist office, then I can make an appt. The receptionist was telling me that it takes a total of 5 visits to have everything done. Each time after you have a visit, it takes 2 to 3 weeks for them to come back to the office so you can make an appt. OMG!!!!!! I was hoping to have new teeth by the holidays, it's looking more like next year at this point! Since I was the very last patient, he kept asking everyone about their dinner. Guess he was hungry, lol. First thing he asked me was what I was making for dinner. Um, it's in the crock pot because I wanted to eat and run tonight. I knew Thursday was going to be long, because I wanted to go knit. I wanted to get to the dentist because of the pain in my mouth. I didn't want to wake up one morning and be in extreme pain and not be able to open my mouth again. I don't ever want to go through that again! So here it is Friday, hopefully the boys will go to youth group, and I'll have some down time. Tomorrow I have to get a list together of what I want to make people for Christmas and start using my Monday's off to work on this stuff. I know it's early yet, but I'm going to need lots of time. I am in no mood to be going anywhere. I want to stay home and do what I want to do. I think I need it now. Next week isn't looking as crazy and I have no intention of letting it get that way either.
Hubby's uncle still has to go to court. Don't know when that will be, but hubby is going with me for sure. That will be another long, long night for me.
I'm looking forward to a 3 day hibernation, lol!!
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Sunday
Wow, I finally figured out how to make the type bigger! Guess I should just play around some more. Imagine what I could discover, lol.
Today seems to be my relaxing day. Yesterday I went shopping and felt better when I was done. Then instead of doing nothing, I gave the living room a really good cleaning. Every time when I walk in the door hubby's uncle jumps up and tells me to sit down and watch tv, lol. Only one of our tv's is connected to dish. It's the main one we use. He watches that one because that's the one that gets the Indian channels on it. But, the man has to know I don't get a lot of time to sit down and watch tv all day. There are some days I would love to do that, but not likely.
Went to church this morning and was feeling really good after I got home. Nice and peaceful. That was short lived when I got a piece of news that I have to break to hubby. He's not going to like it. I'm not going to like telling him, lol. The pastor who left the church about a year ago was there today. Him and his family moved down to Virginia around this time last year. I was surprised to see him. He looked like he lost weight in the face, but his belly has gotten much bigger, lol. He gave up the church due to health problems. He was telling me about his family and what everyone's been up to. He seemed really happy down there. It was nice seeing him again. I'm sorry hubby couldn't make it to church. Hubby really liked him to. They boys friend J went to church with us this morning to. I was surprised. I didn't ask him because I didn't think he would want to go. We've asked in the past and he always refused. Glad he went. It's made for a much calmer house today. The oldest didn't go. I had talked to hubby about the oldest going because he hasn't made it to church in quite a while, but it was hard getting ready for church this morning. Twenty minutes and 3 pairs of pantyhose later I was ready to get dressed, lol. I was determined I was going to win this battle. It seemed like everything I put on this morning didn't fit right. Then I remembered I'm bloated and needed to wear something larger than I normally would. Four outfits later I finally had something on that looked acceptable to me. I'm finally ready and then the youngest has a problem. His pants don't fit, to small. Now, yesterday we all got our clothes for church out, hoping to avoid this problem. So much for the attempt, lol. He was set on wearing this horrific shirt which reminds me of a bowling shirt, but uglier. It was really hard finding pants to go with this shirt. As we are finally getting ready to walk out the door hubby calls. Wants to know what I'm doing. So I told him and then he told me I could come and get the oldest. Well, it's 10:50 and church starts at 11 am and it usually takes about 15 minutes to get there. I told him I had no time to get the oldest and we were running late as it was. Why this man would call so late is beyond me.
The house is very quiet now. I believe all the kids are gone. The boys friend's parents are supposed to be here sometime today to get him. I don't know what the problem is, but they were here yesterday and they were all shouting and arguing with each other. I really feel bad, but I just can't keep doing this. I can't let these people keep doing this. I can't change my mind now and let him stay because that will just open me up to be taken advantage of more and more. But, I've done my part, did what I could.
Hubbys uncle has a lawyer appt tomorrow. I asked hubby about it the other day. His uncle changed the appt on Thursday and never said anything to me. I had to ask hubby. Why would you do this if you expect me to drop everything and run you. The least he could do is tell me ahead to time. Maybe that's why he's being so nice to me lately. He's figured out that even though hubby may say I'm going to do something for him, but if I don't want to I'm not going to and it's not worth the hassle, lol. A little respect is all I ask for.
Today seems to be my relaxing day. Yesterday I went shopping and felt better when I was done. Then instead of doing nothing, I gave the living room a really good cleaning. Every time when I walk in the door hubby's uncle jumps up and tells me to sit down and watch tv, lol. Only one of our tv's is connected to dish. It's the main one we use. He watches that one because that's the one that gets the Indian channels on it. But, the man has to know I don't get a lot of time to sit down and watch tv all day. There are some days I would love to do that, but not likely.
Went to church this morning and was feeling really good after I got home. Nice and peaceful. That was short lived when I got a piece of news that I have to break to hubby. He's not going to like it. I'm not going to like telling him, lol. The pastor who left the church about a year ago was there today. Him and his family moved down to Virginia around this time last year. I was surprised to see him. He looked like he lost weight in the face, but his belly has gotten much bigger, lol. He gave up the church due to health problems. He was telling me about his family and what everyone's been up to. He seemed really happy down there. It was nice seeing him again. I'm sorry hubby couldn't make it to church. Hubby really liked him to. They boys friend J went to church with us this morning to. I was surprised. I didn't ask him because I didn't think he would want to go. We've asked in the past and he always refused. Glad he went. It's made for a much calmer house today. The oldest didn't go. I had talked to hubby about the oldest going because he hasn't made it to church in quite a while, but it was hard getting ready for church this morning. Twenty minutes and 3 pairs of pantyhose later I was ready to get dressed, lol. I was determined I was going to win this battle. It seemed like everything I put on this morning didn't fit right. Then I remembered I'm bloated and needed to wear something larger than I normally would. Four outfits later I finally had something on that looked acceptable to me. I'm finally ready and then the youngest has a problem. His pants don't fit, to small. Now, yesterday we all got our clothes for church out, hoping to avoid this problem. So much for the attempt, lol. He was set on wearing this horrific shirt which reminds me of a bowling shirt, but uglier. It was really hard finding pants to go with this shirt. As we are finally getting ready to walk out the door hubby calls. Wants to know what I'm doing. So I told him and then he told me I could come and get the oldest. Well, it's 10:50 and church starts at 11 am and it usually takes about 15 minutes to get there. I told him I had no time to get the oldest and we were running late as it was. Why this man would call so late is beyond me.
The house is very quiet now. I believe all the kids are gone. The boys friend's parents are supposed to be here sometime today to get him. I don't know what the problem is, but they were here yesterday and they were all shouting and arguing with each other. I really feel bad, but I just can't keep doing this. I can't let these people keep doing this. I can't change my mind now and let him stay because that will just open me up to be taken advantage of more and more. But, I've done my part, did what I could.
Hubbys uncle has a lawyer appt tomorrow. I asked hubby about it the other day. His uncle changed the appt on Thursday and never said anything to me. I had to ask hubby. Why would you do this if you expect me to drop everything and run you. The least he could do is tell me ahead to time. Maybe that's why he's being so nice to me lately. He's figured out that even though hubby may say I'm going to do something for him, but if I don't want to I'm not going to and it's not worth the hassle, lol. A little respect is all I ask for.
Saturday, October 18, 2008
In desperate need of time away
So glad the weekend is finally here. This week seems to have just taken it's good old time creeping on by. I fully intend to do some retail therapy for myself today. Child free, lol!! My plans all week have been to do nothing but relax. I'm so tired of going to work and coming home and doing housework to, I need a break, lol!
Yesterday the boys were supposed to go to youth group. Since my youngest decided to take over contacting people to bring snacks, he had to go. He hasn't been at youth group because of going to the games the past 2 weeks. Nobody scheduled to bring snacks this week but him. So, as soon as they get off the bus I take the oldest and we go into Htown. It's a little farther,but if we went to Ptown or Hilltown, it's not as cheap as Htown. So I made the drive. Payless is having BOGO so I made a detour and came out with 2 pairs of heals and 2 pairs of flats, lol. They had some really cute boots I might go back for next week. That has to be after the bills are paid though. Forgot to stop for some more yarn I need to finish my project, but I can do that today after I drop off my time sheet since I'll be in Htown again anyway.
As soon as my oldest gets in the car he tells me that his friend J wants to come and stay with us again. For 2 weeks! This is not the time to tell me this. It's Friday, I'm tired, it's been a long week and I had plans on chasing everyone out of the house all day and just doing whatever I wanted to do. Not cleaning and doing laundry. Then it sinks in that he said 2 weeks. I ask him who told the kid he could stay for 2 weeks?? My son's like I don't know mom, but I can't keep having him here. Ok, so getting tired of each other. On the way home we come up to out driveway and there is a red pickup truck coming out if it. My oldest says it's J's moms truck. Sure enough it is. And there's just her in it. He says he hopes she didn't just drop her kid off. I'm thinking the same thing. We decide to drive on by and go see hubby since it's time to get him now anyway. Hubby's working daytime now and is supposed to be getting done around 4 pm. We walk in the store and the fool is gone and hubby is busy. The fool has been gone since noon. Said he would be back in 30 minutes when he left. The fool works from 1 pm to 1 am. Guess that was better than working 4 am, since he likes to sleep and doesn't crawl out of bed until noon anyway. The fool's going back to India the end of November anyway so this is only temporary I'm sure. Anyway, I leave the oldest to start stocking. The fool walks in as I'm leaving. I get home and there's the boys friend, J. This is the last thing I wanted this weekend. I'm also angry that this woman would just drop her kid off at my house without even contacting me to see if it's ok. What kind of mother does that?? So I decided to tell the kid he could only stay the weekend and then he has to have his mother come and get him on Sunday. I don't like being that way, but right now I feel like she's taking advantage of us. We were kind enough to take her kid in because of the situation they are in, but to just drop your child and not say anything, you've gone to far and gotten me angry. We aren't related to these people, we are total strangers to them. Once again I've been taken advantage of for being nice. So when I talked to the kid I asked him why he wasn't staying with his mom and dad. They are staying with friends of theirs and had no place to put him. Correct me if I'm wrong, but when you're a parent aren't you supposed to make sure your children are taken care of by you, no matter what?? If worse comes to worse and you can't aren't you supposed to make sure you kids are taken care of first?? Why would you go stay at a place where there is no room for your kids?? The parents were staying with their daughter, but that only lasted a few days and she kicked them out. Not even going there. This kid J only spent one night at the friend house the parents are staying at and then went the next day to stay with another friend of his. They only kept him until Friday. That's why he appeared on our doorstep. Hubby's upset because this woman just dropped this kid and didn't say anything, but he's willing to let him stay. I'm not. The boys are all getting on each others nerves, no one sleeps at night. Having this kid here disrupts their schedule to much. It's bad enough uncle is still here. He' s another irritating situation all together, lol.
Well, I guess I should go back to bed now that I've gotten most of this out. Took hubby to work and he never started the car because he couldn't find the car keys so we were sitting in a cold car waiting for it do defrost. Definitely got frost last night so everything is done growing outside now for sure. I'm headed back to bed to warm up, lol.
Yesterday the boys were supposed to go to youth group. Since my youngest decided to take over contacting people to bring snacks, he had to go. He hasn't been at youth group because of going to the games the past 2 weeks. Nobody scheduled to bring snacks this week but him. So, as soon as they get off the bus I take the oldest and we go into Htown. It's a little farther,but if we went to Ptown or Hilltown, it's not as cheap as Htown. So I made the drive. Payless is having BOGO so I made a detour and came out with 2 pairs of heals and 2 pairs of flats, lol. They had some really cute boots I might go back for next week. That has to be after the bills are paid though. Forgot to stop for some more yarn I need to finish my project, but I can do that today after I drop off my time sheet since I'll be in Htown again anyway.
As soon as my oldest gets in the car he tells me that his friend J wants to come and stay with us again. For 2 weeks! This is not the time to tell me this. It's Friday, I'm tired, it's been a long week and I had plans on chasing everyone out of the house all day and just doing whatever I wanted to do. Not cleaning and doing laundry. Then it sinks in that he said 2 weeks. I ask him who told the kid he could stay for 2 weeks?? My son's like I don't know mom, but I can't keep having him here. Ok, so getting tired of each other. On the way home we come up to out driveway and there is a red pickup truck coming out if it. My oldest says it's J's moms truck. Sure enough it is. And there's just her in it. He says he hopes she didn't just drop her kid off. I'm thinking the same thing. We decide to drive on by and go see hubby since it's time to get him now anyway. Hubby's working daytime now and is supposed to be getting done around 4 pm. We walk in the store and the fool is gone and hubby is busy. The fool has been gone since noon. Said he would be back in 30 minutes when he left. The fool works from 1 pm to 1 am. Guess that was better than working 4 am, since he likes to sleep and doesn't crawl out of bed until noon anyway. The fool's going back to India the end of November anyway so this is only temporary I'm sure. Anyway, I leave the oldest to start stocking. The fool walks in as I'm leaving. I get home and there's the boys friend, J. This is the last thing I wanted this weekend. I'm also angry that this woman would just drop her kid off at my house without even contacting me to see if it's ok. What kind of mother does that?? So I decided to tell the kid he could only stay the weekend and then he has to have his mother come and get him on Sunday. I don't like being that way, but right now I feel like she's taking advantage of us. We were kind enough to take her kid in because of the situation they are in, but to just drop your child and not say anything, you've gone to far and gotten me angry. We aren't related to these people, we are total strangers to them. Once again I've been taken advantage of for being nice. So when I talked to the kid I asked him why he wasn't staying with his mom and dad. They are staying with friends of theirs and had no place to put him. Correct me if I'm wrong, but when you're a parent aren't you supposed to make sure your children are taken care of by you, no matter what?? If worse comes to worse and you can't aren't you supposed to make sure you kids are taken care of first?? Why would you go stay at a place where there is no room for your kids?? The parents were staying with their daughter, but that only lasted a few days and she kicked them out. Not even going there. This kid J only spent one night at the friend house the parents are staying at and then went the next day to stay with another friend of his. They only kept him until Friday. That's why he appeared on our doorstep. Hubby's upset because this woman just dropped this kid and didn't say anything, but he's willing to let him stay. I'm not. The boys are all getting on each others nerves, no one sleeps at night. Having this kid here disrupts their schedule to much. It's bad enough uncle is still here. He' s another irritating situation all together, lol.
Well, I guess I should go back to bed now that I've gotten most of this out. Took hubby to work and he never started the car because he couldn't find the car keys so we were sitting in a cold car waiting for it do defrost. Definitely got frost last night so everything is done growing outside now for sure. I'm headed back to bed to warm up, lol.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
To funny
My youngest broke a light bulb on the kitchen floor so I told him to get the vacuum and do the floor to make sure he got all the little pieces I'm sure to step on tomorrow morning. While he's vacuuming I see a huge (quarter size) spider. Now, spiders don't make me freak unless they are on me, so I told him to take the hose of the vacuum and suck the spider up. As soon as that hose came after the spider it started running as fast as all 8 of it's legs could carry it, lol. So, I took the hose and chased the spider until I got it. I held the hose up to make sure it was being sucked into the vacuum and gave it back to the youngest. Now, the youngest can scream as loud as any girl. As he turned around to finish the floor I touched the back of him and told him the spider was on him. He jumps, screams, is flailing his arms in the air, slapping and kicking at he same time. I'm laughing so hard at him I have tears in my eyes. He, on the other hand, is super upset because mom got him good, LOL.
After work I went and did a little shopping for me. Took the oldest with me only because we had to drop off some stuff the friend left here and wanted back. I only ended up going 2 stores. I thought about going other places, but I was tired and it was getting late. We get home and order pizza from the place down the road. An hour later when it was ready we got in the car to pick up the pizza and the car won't start. Won't turn over. The oldest ended up walking for the pizza. I call hubby and tell him what happened. This way he has time to think of what he's going to do. He tell me he's bringing the pickup truck home and I can take the uncles car. I tell him no, I want the truck. The youngest is listening to parts of the conversation (this was before the spider incident) and asked me what was going on.
youngest: Mom, who's car are you driving tomorrow?
me: I'm taking the pickup.
youngest: Why???? Uncle has a Lexus mom. Why don't you want to drive that? That's a nice car.
me: It's a car.
youngest: Sorry to tell ya mom, but pop pops redneck blood is coming out in you. Who would choose a pickup truck over a Lexus??
me: I would, lol.
youngest: Next thing I know you're going to be making moonshine back behind the shed( shaking his head in disbelief at me).
me: No I won't. They cut the corn down, I have to wait until next year
After work I went and did a little shopping for me. Took the oldest with me only because we had to drop off some stuff the friend left here and wanted back. I only ended up going 2 stores. I thought about going other places, but I was tired and it was getting late. We get home and order pizza from the place down the road. An hour later when it was ready we got in the car to pick up the pizza and the car won't start. Won't turn over. The oldest ended up walking for the pizza. I call hubby and tell him what happened. This way he has time to think of what he's going to do. He tell me he's bringing the pickup truck home and I can take the uncles car. I tell him no, I want the truck. The youngest is listening to parts of the conversation (this was before the spider incident) and asked me what was going on.
youngest: Mom, who's car are you driving tomorrow?
me: I'm taking the pickup.
youngest: Why???? Uncle has a Lexus mom. Why don't you want to drive that? That's a nice car.
me: It's a car.
youngest: Sorry to tell ya mom, but pop pops redneck blood is coming out in you. Who would choose a pickup truck over a Lexus??
me: I would, lol.
youngest: Next thing I know you're going to be making moonshine back behind the shed( shaking his head in disbelief at me).
me: No I won't. They cut the corn down, I have to wait until next year
Monday, October 13, 2008
Monday morning blahs
Got up way to early this morning. Just kept sneezing and sneezing, so I gave up on sleep and got up. The longer I'm up the worse I'm starting to feel. I think I have this cold thing that is going around. Yesterday I felt pretty good, but around dinner time I was starting to feel bad. I did't think anything of it since me and the oldest and his friend all tackled the sunroom. It was an all day project to. We moved all the furniture out and gaveit a good vacuming, changed the blinds on the two front windows because they were a mess, and got a new tv stand. The old one was weird. It had a low part to set the tv on and there was another part, about 12" higher next to it. It made it awkward to angle the tv because of the other part. So, I went to Big Lots thinking they might have a cheap tv stand and found blinds there to. One short trip. Since the front windows in the sunroom are so wide, I decided to put 2 small blinds together to cover the window. The other way, there was a 1 inch space on each side, but the blinds always snapped when you went to pull them up. Guess there just wasn't snough support in the center. Now that it's rearranged it looks like there's more room in there. My sewing table is all neat and organized, makes me want to mess it up, lol.
Hubby gets to start work later today. So glad. Noon just seemed way to early. Was thinking about going shopping after my hair appt today, but thenagain I think I should just take it wasy today. My last day off of my long weekend.
We are one kid short. The boys friend's mom came last night to get him. Sort of. She asked me if I wanted her to take him. I'm thinking this is your child, not mine, lol. But, since the kids have been arguing and stuff lately that maybe him leaving, probably for a short time, would do everyone good. This way we can relax a little and life can get back to being a little normal around here. Uncle just hung around here all day yesterday. I kind of felt bad for him, but, on well. There's lots to be done around here and just pitch in and help. We saw him sitting outside on the swing for a while nodding off. He was watching tv with us in the sunroom and then went tobed, rather early. I did make sure a kid was in the sunroom with the tv since I wasn't in the mood to have to find something else to do while he watched the Indian channels all night. When I came home from the station the other night, uncle asked me what hubby said. At first Ithought he just wanted to know if hubby sent a message home for him. So I told him nothing and asked him why. He wanted to anything and everything hubby said about him. This really made me angry. Just why does he think anything hubby says about him, good or bad, I'm going to tell him???? I have to get hubby alone to tell him because this is our home and I don't want that kind of crap going on in my house! I didn't have to agree to him staying here. I could start making a fuss about him being here so hubby makes him leave. He needs to think about these things, he could be homeless right now.
Well, I have dishes to tackle and some laundry to do as well as vacuming and mopping. So much for my relaxing day, lol. Maybe this afternoon.
Hubby gets to start work later today. So glad. Noon just seemed way to early. Was thinking about going shopping after my hair appt today, but thenagain I think I should just take it wasy today. My last day off of my long weekend.
We are one kid short. The boys friend's mom came last night to get him. Sort of. She asked me if I wanted her to take him. I'm thinking this is your child, not mine, lol. But, since the kids have been arguing and stuff lately that maybe him leaving, probably for a short time, would do everyone good. This way we can relax a little and life can get back to being a little normal around here. Uncle just hung around here all day yesterday. I kind of felt bad for him, but, on well. There's lots to be done around here and just pitch in and help. We saw him sitting outside on the swing for a while nodding off. He was watching tv with us in the sunroom and then went tobed, rather early. I did make sure a kid was in the sunroom with the tv since I wasn't in the mood to have to find something else to do while he watched the Indian channels all night. When I came home from the station the other night, uncle asked me what hubby said. At first Ithought he just wanted to know if hubby sent a message home for him. So I told him nothing and asked him why. He wanted to anything and everything hubby said about him. This really made me angry. Just why does he think anything hubby says about him, good or bad, I'm going to tell him???? I have to get hubby alone to tell him because this is our home and I don't want that kind of crap going on in my house! I didn't have to agree to him staying here. I could start making a fuss about him being here so hubby makes him leave. He needs to think about these things, he could be homeless right now.
Well, I have dishes to tackle and some laundry to do as well as vacuming and mopping. So much for my relaxing day, lol. Maybe this afternoon.
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Sunday
Today I've decided that I'm just going to laze around the house and not do to much. Yesterday we all went shopping. I took the 2 boys and hubby's uncle. Of course, I had to wait a while for him so I did some cleaning in the kitchen and rearranging. I just can't believe how dirty my house gets so quickly! I made more room to put some more plants in the kitchen. Most of my house plants are so huge now, it's hard to find any room for them, lol. I have to rearrange the sunroom. My sewing area has been relocated to that room now, as well. It's not a large space, but the way things are set up now, it's really tight and my sewing table is against a wall where there is no electrical outlet. When we had this room built on, hubby only wanted 2 outlets, I wanted 4, one on each wall. Hubby said no, no, we no need that many. Yes we do, lol! I'm going to put my table against one of the walls that has the largest windows. I love to sit and sew and be able to see the snow covered pine trees. So calming. I have to move the long sofa on one of the other walls and the tv on the smallest wall. Origionally, the intention of this room was to have it as the room where we could watch tv and basically hang out. My living room carpeting is light and the funriture is 2 years old now. We put all the older furniture in the sunroom thinking it's ok if it gets a little messed up by the boys. The thought of moving the tv into the living room has crossed my mind, but that was short lived. There are 3 teenage boys were and 2 Indian men. Do I really want to do this????? I think not, lol.
I've been thinking a lot about going to see my parents. I was going to see them the end of this month, but the oldest has a craft fair he has to work to earn money towards his senior trip, so I've been thinking about doing it the weekend after. I would leave on a Friday and drive back on a Tuesday. The boys would only miss 2 days of school because there is a Monday they have off during that week. Gas prices are dropping here, hopefully they will stay low. I'm only going to take my 2 boys, the friend will have to go back to his family while I'm gone. I thought about taking him, but it's an out of state trip, 7 hour drive. I really, really don't want all that responsibility. I feel bad but, I just can't take that kind of chance. Then while I'm christmas shopping I'll feel about about not getting him something to. I'm not completely sure I'm going yet, have to ask hubby for money and a credit card before I go. He did tell me to take the boys and go without him though, lol. He knows there is a fabric store I want to visit while I'm there. He loves the store to because the other side of the store is all tools. Odd combo, but caters to both sexes.
When I took everyone shopping yesterday, the boys stayed with me, but the uncle, I kept losing him, lol. Every time I turned around he was gone. He's a short little guy and is hard to find even the shortest shelving is taller than him, lol. I kept looking for the tip of his baseball cap, lol. When we were coming through town on the way home he wanted me to stop at a certain bank. Fortunatelly, it was closed. I thought he maybe wanted to withdraw money, but no, his son works here and he wanted to talk to him. This situation with his family has gotten me and hubby in a bit of a predicament. This is the uncle no one in the family, but hubby, will have anything to do with. Hubby has been forbidden by the family, but........... This mans wife found out that hubby took him to her house and she is livid over it. I totally get where she is coming from, hubby is clueless. Her parents, I don't know why they did what they did, they should have known how their daughter was going to react. I didn't know the whole story, but I do now. I think. His wife threw him out because he was drinking so bad and being mean when he was drunk. They have been married for 25 years, he's had a girlfriend for the past 20 fo those years. The girlfriend, who is over in India, is the reason this man has no money now. He took his share of profits from the business him and his partner sold and he went to India to see this woman. Told no one he was going. Came back when he was broke. Hubby knows how I feel about a man who is married and doesn't know how to keep it in his pants. Add to that the drinking and I dont' think he was a very good husband or father. Every time I talk to hubby on the phone or at the station the uncle askes me what hubby said about him. I at first, thought he wanted to know if hubby sent a message back for him, but he wants to know everything hubby says to me about him. Like I'm going to tell him!! It's none of his business what hubby and I talk about and one day he's going to catch me in a really bad mood and I'm going to tell him about himself. He already knows I'm nothing to be messed with when I'm angry. As I was leaving last night, I walked into the oldest coming in from his girlfriends house, at 2 am. Both hubby and the uncle backed themselves up as far against the door as they could get when I let the oldest have it, lol. Hubby's more easy going than I am when it comes to that. If you tell hubby you won't do it again, hubby's ok with it. Me, I'm more of the clean the house with a toothbrush, drill sargent type of person, lol. He told hubby he wouldn't do it again ( yeah right) and hubby sent him off to bed. Me, I would have made him stay up until he had to be at work at 7 am. His sheets were just changed on the bed and the youngest and I both remade this kids bed. It hadn't been slept in because nothing was messed up in it. The kid might have gotten a few hours sleep last night, but I intend to keep him busy today so he won't have a chance to sleep.
The fool is supposed to come back today. His aunt is staying. If he actually shows I'll be suprised. Look out the next time he goes, lol. Hubby's uncle has a court date on Wednesday and hubby said if the fool was back he was going to try to get off to go to court with him. If only hubby had his license, then I could stay home that night and he could take him while I enjoy the peace and quiet. I finally complained to hubby about his uncle always cooking when it's time for me to cook. Enough is enough. He starts around 4 and isn't done until about 7. That's after taking a break to make his tea! I'm cooking tonight and he's not getting my stove or my kitchen. He's going to have to cook during the week while I'm working and be done by the time I get home. I told hubby his uncle gets one hour in the kitchen to cook, if he's not done by 5, then they won't be eating until really late, lol.
I've been thinking a lot about going to see my parents. I was going to see them the end of this month, but the oldest has a craft fair he has to work to earn money towards his senior trip, so I've been thinking about doing it the weekend after. I would leave on a Friday and drive back on a Tuesday. The boys would only miss 2 days of school because there is a Monday they have off during that week. Gas prices are dropping here, hopefully they will stay low. I'm only going to take my 2 boys, the friend will have to go back to his family while I'm gone. I thought about taking him, but it's an out of state trip, 7 hour drive. I really, really don't want all that responsibility. I feel bad but, I just can't take that kind of chance. Then while I'm christmas shopping I'll feel about about not getting him something to. I'm not completely sure I'm going yet, have to ask hubby for money and a credit card before I go. He did tell me to take the boys and go without him though, lol. He knows there is a fabric store I want to visit while I'm there. He loves the store to because the other side of the store is all tools. Odd combo, but caters to both sexes.
When I took everyone shopping yesterday, the boys stayed with me, but the uncle, I kept losing him, lol. Every time I turned around he was gone. He's a short little guy and is hard to find even the shortest shelving is taller than him, lol. I kept looking for the tip of his baseball cap, lol. When we were coming through town on the way home he wanted me to stop at a certain bank. Fortunatelly, it was closed. I thought he maybe wanted to withdraw money, but no, his son works here and he wanted to talk to him. This situation with his family has gotten me and hubby in a bit of a predicament. This is the uncle no one in the family, but hubby, will have anything to do with. Hubby has been forbidden by the family, but........... This mans wife found out that hubby took him to her house and she is livid over it. I totally get where she is coming from, hubby is clueless. Her parents, I don't know why they did what they did, they should have known how their daughter was going to react. I didn't know the whole story, but I do now. I think. His wife threw him out because he was drinking so bad and being mean when he was drunk. They have been married for 25 years, he's had a girlfriend for the past 20 fo those years. The girlfriend, who is over in India, is the reason this man has no money now. He took his share of profits from the business him and his partner sold and he went to India to see this woman. Told no one he was going. Came back when he was broke. Hubby knows how I feel about a man who is married and doesn't know how to keep it in his pants. Add to that the drinking and I dont' think he was a very good husband or father. Every time I talk to hubby on the phone or at the station the uncle askes me what hubby said about him. I at first, thought he wanted to know if hubby sent a message back for him, but he wants to know everything hubby says to me about him. Like I'm going to tell him!! It's none of his business what hubby and I talk about and one day he's going to catch me in a really bad mood and I'm going to tell him about himself. He already knows I'm nothing to be messed with when I'm angry. As I was leaving last night, I walked into the oldest coming in from his girlfriends house, at 2 am. Both hubby and the uncle backed themselves up as far against the door as they could get when I let the oldest have it, lol. Hubby's more easy going than I am when it comes to that. If you tell hubby you won't do it again, hubby's ok with it. Me, I'm more of the clean the house with a toothbrush, drill sargent type of person, lol. He told hubby he wouldn't do it again ( yeah right) and hubby sent him off to bed. Me, I would have made him stay up until he had to be at work at 7 am. His sheets were just changed on the bed and the youngest and I both remade this kids bed. It hadn't been slept in because nothing was messed up in it. The kid might have gotten a few hours sleep last night, but I intend to keep him busy today so he won't have a chance to sleep.
The fool is supposed to come back today. His aunt is staying. If he actually shows I'll be suprised. Look out the next time he goes, lol. Hubby's uncle has a court date on Wednesday and hubby said if the fool was back he was going to try to get off to go to court with him. If only hubby had his license, then I could stay home that night and he could take him while I enjoy the peace and quiet. I finally complained to hubby about his uncle always cooking when it's time for me to cook. Enough is enough. He starts around 4 and isn't done until about 7. That's after taking a break to make his tea! I'm cooking tonight and he's not getting my stove or my kitchen. He's going to have to cook during the week while I'm working and be done by the time I get home. I told hubby his uncle gets one hour in the kitchen to cook, if he's not done by 5, then they won't be eating until really late, lol.
Saturday, October 11, 2008
You know they've moved in when.........
They hand wash their dirty underwear, they've probably worn for the past 3 or 4 days, and leave them on the shower curtain rod to dry. Eeeeewwwww, so gross!! So, had to have a chat with hubby about this. Hubby just giggled and said that's ok if that's what he wants. NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So, later again I tried talking to hubby about this explaining to him that I wash 3 or 4 loads of laundry every day. A few more pieces of clothing is really no big deal. I'm the one that when he leaves has to go into that room and clean, disinfect, and fumigate it. The cleaner he is while he's here, the better for me. I'll still have a lot of work, but hopefully not as much. I wash my sheets weekly, he will be giving up his on sheet washing day. And his room will be cleaned on a weekly basis, by either him or me. This is my house and my rules. Hubby didn't have much to say after that, lol.
I've been feeling pretty crappy all day. Woke up yesterday morning sneezing like crazy. I thought it was allergies. I've been sneezing all day, my nose is running and I'm feeling achy. I think I'm getting sick. Just what I need. A friend of mine stopped over for a few minutes and asked me if I was feeling ok. I must look bad to. I told her not really, told her I think I'm getting sick, and she looked at me and asked me to please take this weekend and just take it easy and do nothing. Well, nice thought, but not sure if that's going to happen. The thought of hanging around at home for a few days does sound good.
It's 5 am and I'm up doing an entry. What is wrong with me!! I was sleeping good, so good I never heard hubby come home. Then hubby crawled in bed with his cold body and I was awake. My head hurts and I'm so achy that I can't seem to get comfortable enough to fall back asleep. I took some advil and decided to play on here until I get ready to sleep again. The cat is laying next to my chair giving me dirty looks because I'm up and not in bed, lol. No body told her she had to get up with me, lol. Lately this cat is attached to my hip. No matter where I go she is right there, and if she's really tired of chasing after me she will climb up on one of the kitchen chairs and sleep there. She will stay if I'm in her sight. If I leave her sight she gets up and follows, but always goes up where she can keep one eye on me, lol.
I had been planning on going to see my parents at the end of this month, but then I decided not to. Now I seem to be thinking more and more about maybe I do want to go. Hubby won't go with which really irritates me because he will do for other people, why not me. Says he cant' take time off. Why not if the fool is back, it's only for a few days. I was thinking maybe I would go the second weekend in November. I wanted to go the end of October but that runs into November and the oldest has to work the craft fair his class is sponsoring. He can earn $250 off his senior trip. Go for it kid, lol!! But I was thinking maybe the weekend after, take a Friday off to leave and drive back on a Tuesday. If I go, I have to think of what to do with the kids friend. More than likely he will still be here. I'd like to take him but I would have to talk to his parents and get a signed paper stating that if something happens, I'm not responsible. If they don't do that, then they have to take their kid back while I'm gone. Even if hubby stays home. It's looking more and more like uncle is here for the long haul to. Unless he has real problems when he goes to court on Wednesday. I talked to hubby about that to and told him I need really good directions for the way home because if uncle has to do jail time for the dui, the I'll be coming home alone. Nothing I hate more than being lost in the dark.
Well, I should try to sleep again. I did want to do some yarn shopping today and should be rested so I can think clearly while I'm out.
I've been feeling pretty crappy all day. Woke up yesterday morning sneezing like crazy. I thought it was allergies. I've been sneezing all day, my nose is running and I'm feeling achy. I think I'm getting sick. Just what I need. A friend of mine stopped over for a few minutes and asked me if I was feeling ok. I must look bad to. I told her not really, told her I think I'm getting sick, and she looked at me and asked me to please take this weekend and just take it easy and do nothing. Well, nice thought, but not sure if that's going to happen. The thought of hanging around at home for a few days does sound good.
It's 5 am and I'm up doing an entry. What is wrong with me!! I was sleeping good, so good I never heard hubby come home. Then hubby crawled in bed with his cold body and I was awake. My head hurts and I'm so achy that I can't seem to get comfortable enough to fall back asleep. I took some advil and decided to play on here until I get ready to sleep again. The cat is laying next to my chair giving me dirty looks because I'm up and not in bed, lol. No body told her she had to get up with me, lol. Lately this cat is attached to my hip. No matter where I go she is right there, and if she's really tired of chasing after me she will climb up on one of the kitchen chairs and sleep there. She will stay if I'm in her sight. If I leave her sight she gets up and follows, but always goes up where she can keep one eye on me, lol.
I had been planning on going to see my parents at the end of this month, but then I decided not to. Now I seem to be thinking more and more about maybe I do want to go. Hubby won't go with which really irritates me because he will do for other people, why not me. Says he cant' take time off. Why not if the fool is back, it's only for a few days. I was thinking maybe I would go the second weekend in November. I wanted to go the end of October but that runs into November and the oldest has to work the craft fair his class is sponsoring. He can earn $250 off his senior trip. Go for it kid, lol!! But I was thinking maybe the weekend after, take a Friday off to leave and drive back on a Tuesday. If I go, I have to think of what to do with the kids friend. More than likely he will still be here. I'd like to take him but I would have to talk to his parents and get a signed paper stating that if something happens, I'm not responsible. If they don't do that, then they have to take their kid back while I'm gone. Even if hubby stays home. It's looking more and more like uncle is here for the long haul to. Unless he has real problems when he goes to court on Wednesday. I talked to hubby about that to and told him I need really good directions for the way home because if uncle has to do jail time for the dui, the I'll be coming home alone. Nothing I hate more than being lost in the dark.
Well, I should try to sleep again. I did want to do some yarn shopping today and should be rested so I can think clearly while I'm out.
Friday, October 10, 2008
TGIF
I'm so glad today is Friday! I'm having that gotta get away feeling already and the days just started, lol. Don't plan on doing much at work today so hopefully it will be a quiet day. Yesterday, it seemed like there was always someone there.
I finally got the baking done for the kids game tonight. I let everything cool over night so all I will have to do when I get home today is decorate the cupcakes
The kids friends mom came yesterday and got him to take him for his eye drs appt. Only problem is it's today and not yesterday, lol. When he got back he was the only kid here and I notice he's hanging in the kitchen. Now we all know there's only one reason a teenager hangs in the kitchen, lol. I asked him if he ate while he was out,he said no. So, I came up with a few options for him since I didn't cook because it was only me and my menu is very limited. But what really irritated me was that she didn't feed her kid before bringing him back. Hubby and I took this kid in because we felt bad for him and the situation he's in. We aren't charging these people anything while their kid stays here. He might be here until the holidays for all we know. Have enough decency to at least spend some time with your kid, who you haven't seen for almost a week, and feed him before you bring him back!! That just rubbed me the wrong way yesterday. Lately everything seem to rub me the wrong way.
Hubby called me at work yesterday and complained that I didn't call him to wake him up for work. My response, use an alarm clock like everyone else. I could just hear the shock and surprise on the other end of the phone. Then he starts explaining what happened the night before. Why explain, I know you were drinking and drunk dialing. He kept insisting he only had one beer with a friend who came to see him. Whatever. Just stop repeating the store over and over again. Just who are you trying to convince of what you did??
I go to the station to get the kids and hubby comes up to me and asks me how I'm feeling. I think he finally realized that I'm still in pain and that's what's making me snap at everyone. He unfortunately, is a little slow to figure that one out, lol. I think the boys clued him in because they were doing their best to avoid me to, lol.
Well, hopefully today will be a better day. I slept through the whole night. I slept so well I never heard hubby come home, lol. So, now I'm off to work. I haven't been by to any ones journals yet to comment. Still getting used to this new set up. Hopefully over the weekend.
I finally got the baking done for the kids game tonight. I let everything cool over night so all I will have to do when I get home today is decorate the cupcakes
The kids friends mom came yesterday and got him to take him for his eye drs appt. Only problem is it's today and not yesterday, lol. When he got back he was the only kid here and I notice he's hanging in the kitchen. Now we all know there's only one reason a teenager hangs in the kitchen, lol. I asked him if he ate while he was out,he said no. So, I came up with a few options for him since I didn't cook because it was only me and my menu is very limited. But what really irritated me was that she didn't feed her kid before bringing him back. Hubby and I took this kid in because we felt bad for him and the situation he's in. We aren't charging these people anything while their kid stays here. He might be here until the holidays for all we know. Have enough decency to at least spend some time with your kid, who you haven't seen for almost a week, and feed him before you bring him back!! That just rubbed me the wrong way yesterday. Lately everything seem to rub me the wrong way.
Hubby called me at work yesterday and complained that I didn't call him to wake him up for work. My response, use an alarm clock like everyone else. I could just hear the shock and surprise on the other end of the phone. Then he starts explaining what happened the night before. Why explain, I know you were drinking and drunk dialing. He kept insisting he only had one beer with a friend who came to see him. Whatever. Just stop repeating the store over and over again. Just who are you trying to convince of what you did??
I go to the station to get the kids and hubby comes up to me and asks me how I'm feeling. I think he finally realized that I'm still in pain and that's what's making me snap at everyone. He unfortunately, is a little slow to figure that one out, lol. I think the boys clued him in because they were doing their best to avoid me to, lol.
Well, hopefully today will be a better day. I slept through the whole night. I slept so well I never heard hubby come home, lol. So, now I'm off to work. I haven't been by to any ones journals yet to comment. Still getting used to this new set up. Hopefully over the weekend.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Little venting.............ok, probably a lot
This whole week has been such a busy one. I really hope my weekend goes smoother and I get some rest.
On Monday I went to the dentist, sat in the waiting room for 1 1/2 hours. Was really debating on leaving and just rescheduling, but since I was in pain, I stayed. It seems I have a slight infection and the muscle is tensing up and causing spasms. That's why I can't open my mouth without it hurting so. He gave me an antibiotic and some Motrin. 800 mg of Motrin, lol. Guaranteed to make me sleep, lol. I only take about 400 mg because I just can't function with it any higher. It's still hard to open my mouth, but the pain seems to be better today. I haven't slept through the whole night this week. I wake up around 1 am in pain. But the time I go back to sleep, it's about 4 am. Today I seem to be really stiff, but my mouth only hurts when I try to open it, like to eat, lol. If I put a warm compress on my face, after a while I can open my mouth farther. Like to actually brush and floss with few problems. The dentist said this sometimes happens after multiple extractions. After he said that I seemed to remember reading something about that on the back of the paper I had to sign as a release. To bad they don't give you a copy. Anyway, back to the dentist in 2 weeks again. If everything has cleared up, then he will go ahead and do the few fillings I need, if not, then I don't know what.
Monday night, hubbys uncle shows up with a pick up truck full of his stuff. We got almost all of it in the shed. Poor thing is bulging at the seams though, lol. We don't have a basement, sure wish we did now. Don't know how long he is staying. Slowly I'm getting the whole story. It's not pretty and has changed the way I feel about him. I always had a lot of respect for him because he never encouraged hubby to drink, but now that I know a lot of his past, I'm not so sure anymore. The man hasn't worked for 2 months. I thought it was because of the business being sold. It was sold, but after instead of staying around and looking for work, he took his share of the money and went to India. Never told anyone, not even his parents. He went to visit his girlfriend. Came back broke. Yesterday, we went to hubbys aunts house. I've known her a few years and when I first met her I was told her husband was in the city and that he left her and her son because he was on drugs and that's where he wanted to be. So, the night before we go to see this woman hubby informs me that the uncle that is staying with us is her husband. Her parents are her for a visit and wanted to talk to him and find out what the problem is that they aren't together anymore. Her parents want them together. She doesn't want him. Can't say I blame her. Hubby said his uncle lied to her parents, lol. I feel caught in the middle and just want no parts of the situation. I really like his aunt. More than I ever liked his uncle. Anyway, today at work hubby calls me and tells me that I have to take the uncle to ktown to see his lawyer. Why?? His uncle has dui, his second one. Lawyer seems to think he just might do jail time. Um.... probably. Uncle couldn't find his paperwork from when he was in the hospital. He was in the hospital when his court date was, so no lawyer today. Good for me. Unfortunately, I'm expected to take the uncle to court on Wednesday in Stown. I've never been there and am clueless where it's at. I have to get really good directions there because uncle may not be coming back with me.
Since he's staying for who knows how long and there's now 6 people in my house, we moved all 3 boys into one room and gave uncle a room of his own. Have no idea when the boys friend is leaving either. They still haven't found a place that I know of yet. So far things aren't to bad. My huge problem is that all this extra work falls on me. I've been doing 3 to 4 loads of laundry every day, all the cleaning falls on me as well as most of the cooking and dishes. My huge problem with the uncle is he's always in the way! I want to cook, he cooking. I want to do dishes, he's in the kitchen ironing his clothes or whatever.
. He generally has free run of the house until I come home, then he either leaves or goes in his room. So glad he has his own room, lol. I sure hope hubby appreciates me, lol!!!!!
Today's been a quiet day. The boys friend is at an appt with his parents, my 2 are at the station doing the groceries and stocking. That leaves me some time to work on making the baked goods for the game tomorrow night. Tomorrow is the homecoming game. It feels so weird to do homecoming so early. My hs did homecoming thanksgiving weekend. It was a huge thing in that area. The oldest had to sell bbq tickets for tomorrow. Hubby bought me a dinner. Only problem is now, I won't be able to eat it, any of it so it's become his dinner. The youngest has youth group and then on Saturday is the youth group get together during the day. Not sure if he's going to that or not. Since there is still more that has to be done in this house, I might do a little over the weekend and again maybe not. I just might take that time to relax and take care of myself.
Ok, I still have baking to do tonight so I better get started unless I want to be in the kitchen all night, lol!
On Monday I went to the dentist, sat in the waiting room for 1 1/2 hours. Was really debating on leaving and just rescheduling, but since I was in pain, I stayed. It seems I have a slight infection and the muscle is tensing up and causing spasms. That's why I can't open my mouth without it hurting so. He gave me an antibiotic and some Motrin. 800 mg of Motrin, lol. Guaranteed to make me sleep, lol. I only take about 400 mg because I just can't function with it any higher. It's still hard to open my mouth, but the pain seems to be better today. I haven't slept through the whole night this week. I wake up around 1 am in pain. But the time I go back to sleep, it's about 4 am. Today I seem to be really stiff, but my mouth only hurts when I try to open it, like to eat, lol. If I put a warm compress on my face, after a while I can open my mouth farther. Like to actually brush and floss with few problems. The dentist said this sometimes happens after multiple extractions. After he said that I seemed to remember reading something about that on the back of the paper I had to sign as a release. To bad they don't give you a copy. Anyway, back to the dentist in 2 weeks again. If everything has cleared up, then he will go ahead and do the few fillings I need, if not, then I don't know what.
Monday night, hubbys uncle shows up with a pick up truck full of his stuff. We got almost all of it in the shed. Poor thing is bulging at the seams though, lol. We don't have a basement, sure wish we did now. Don't know how long he is staying. Slowly I'm getting the whole story. It's not pretty and has changed the way I feel about him. I always had a lot of respect for him because he never encouraged hubby to drink, but now that I know a lot of his past, I'm not so sure anymore. The man hasn't worked for 2 months. I thought it was because of the business being sold. It was sold, but after instead of staying around and looking for work, he took his share of the money and went to India. Never told anyone, not even his parents. He went to visit his girlfriend. Came back broke. Yesterday, we went to hubbys aunts house. I've known her a few years and when I first met her I was told her husband was in the city and that he left her and her son because he was on drugs and that's where he wanted to be. So, the night before we go to see this woman hubby informs me that the uncle that is staying with us is her husband. Her parents are her for a visit and wanted to talk to him and find out what the problem is that they aren't together anymore. Her parents want them together. She doesn't want him. Can't say I blame her. Hubby said his uncle lied to her parents, lol. I feel caught in the middle and just want no parts of the situation. I really like his aunt. More than I ever liked his uncle. Anyway, today at work hubby calls me and tells me that I have to take the uncle to ktown to see his lawyer. Why?? His uncle has dui, his second one. Lawyer seems to think he just might do jail time. Um.... probably. Uncle couldn't find his paperwork from when he was in the hospital. He was in the hospital when his court date was, so no lawyer today. Good for me. Unfortunately, I'm expected to take the uncle to court on Wednesday in Stown. I've never been there and am clueless where it's at. I have to get really good directions there because uncle may not be coming back with me.
Since he's staying for who knows how long and there's now 6 people in my house, we moved all 3 boys into one room and gave uncle a room of his own. Have no idea when the boys friend is leaving either. They still haven't found a place that I know of yet. So far things aren't to bad. My huge problem is that all this extra work falls on me. I've been doing 3 to 4 loads of laundry every day, all the cleaning falls on me as well as most of the cooking and dishes. My huge problem with the uncle is he's always in the way! I want to cook, he cooking. I want to do dishes, he's in the kitchen ironing his clothes or whatever.
. He generally has free run of the house until I come home, then he either leaves or goes in his room. So glad he has his own room, lol. I sure hope hubby appreciates me, lol!!!!!
Today's been a quiet day. The boys friend is at an appt with his parents, my 2 are at the station doing the groceries and stocking. That leaves me some time to work on making the baked goods for the game tomorrow night. Tomorrow is the homecoming game. It feels so weird to do homecoming so early. My hs did homecoming thanksgiving weekend. It was a huge thing in that area. The oldest had to sell bbq tickets for tomorrow. Hubby bought me a dinner. Only problem is now, I won't be able to eat it, any of it so it's become his dinner. The youngest has youth group and then on Saturday is the youth group get together during the day. Not sure if he's going to that or not. Since there is still more that has to be done in this house, I might do a little over the weekend and again maybe not. I just might take that time to relax and take care of myself.
Ok, I still have baking to do tonight so I better get started unless I want to be in the kitchen all night, lol!
Monday, October 6, 2008
Cold dreary day and dentist
I forgot to catch the weather yesterday and it's raining, cold, and very damp. Ugh!! We still haven't turned the heat on in the house. We did bring in a space heater from the shed. That helps take the chill off in the house. It's the kind of day I like to bake. It warms up the house and makes it smell good to. Unfortunately, hubby and I are moving very slowly today. Hubby just left for work, almost 30 minutes late. I was supposed to get him up at 10 am. I got up at 10:30 and he got up at 11 am. Oh well, it's that kind of day, lol. He wants a haircut. He's been wanting a haircut for a few days now, but he usually doesn't get up in time for me to give him one. Good for me because I really don't think he needs one. His hair is just now getting long enough that I can run my fingers through it and there's actually something there, lol. It's also starting to curl in the back.
Well, today is dentist day again. Personally, I would rather have cancelled, but, I have a problem. I can't open my mouth very wide. It hurts to open my mouth to eat, or brush my teeth. I don't know why. He didn't even work on the side that hurts. This started around Wednesday of last week. I really didn't bother to change the appt because I knew I had to go today and probably wouldn't get an earlier appt anyway. Lately I've been eating soft things like yogurt, cottage cheese and stuff. Last night I was hungry for food. Real food. So I made a meatloaf, mixed veggies and baked potatoes. I had to squish the potato to eat it, the veggies were a real adventure. They kept falling out because I couldn't open my mouth wide enough, lol. So, unless I want to puree everything I eat( I refuse) I have to go today to find out whats wrong. Hopefully nothing major. Hopefully I will be back to normal in a few days.
The oldest's friend is staying until today with us. Hubby didn't want him staying any longer. He's worried if something happens to this kid while he's with us, we will be help responsible. I would have thought of this eventually. Fine with me because I just am wanting my house back to normal again. This kid is a typical boy. A slob. I find trails of his clothes through the house, lol. Hubby already does that, I don't need another one. And cups and glasses left everywhere. I'm a neat freak and this make me crazy.
Well, I'm out of time. Have to get ready to leave now.
Well, today is dentist day again. Personally, I would rather have cancelled, but, I have a problem. I can't open my mouth very wide. It hurts to open my mouth to eat, or brush my teeth. I don't know why. He didn't even work on the side that hurts. This started around Wednesday of last week. I really didn't bother to change the appt because I knew I had to go today and probably wouldn't get an earlier appt anyway. Lately I've been eating soft things like yogurt, cottage cheese and stuff. Last night I was hungry for food. Real food. So I made a meatloaf, mixed veggies and baked potatoes. I had to squish the potato to eat it, the veggies were a real adventure. They kept falling out because I couldn't open my mouth wide enough, lol. So, unless I want to puree everything I eat( I refuse) I have to go today to find out whats wrong. Hopefully nothing major. Hopefully I will be back to normal in a few days.
The oldest's friend is staying until today with us. Hubby didn't want him staying any longer. He's worried if something happens to this kid while he's with us, we will be help responsible. I would have thought of this eventually. Fine with me because I just am wanting my house back to normal again. This kid is a typical boy. A slob. I find trails of his clothes through the house, lol. Hubby already does that, I don't need another one. And cups and glasses left everywhere. I'm a neat freak and this make me crazy.
Well, I'm out of time. Have to get ready to leave now.
Sunday, October 5, 2008
My first entry in my new home
Ok, so this is my first post from my new home. Hope this works,lol. It just might be a test post, lol.
This feels really weird, but I supose in time I will get used to it, the more I use this site.
If you've followed me her from my old journal, thank you.
I decided to rename my journal because lately I journal about more than just weight loss, which is just stalled at the moment.
The title reflects my feelings about life in general at the moment. I view everything that happens in life as a learning process. Something to learn and grow from.
This feels really weird, but I supose in time I will get used to it, the more I use this site.
If you've followed me her from my old journal, thank you.
I decided to rename my journal because lately I journal about more than just weight loss, which is just stalled at the moment.
The title reflects my feelings about life in general at the moment. I view everything that happens in life as a learning process. Something to learn and grow from.
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